Share a personal experience of noticing how the mind can be a very dangerous place.
I can wake up in a cloud of uninspired limiting confusion and be caught in it all day without finding the will to transcend it
I have the same experience many times.
Thank you for sharing that, Annie. I have been struggling with something similar for the last three years, except I knew to drum up the will, force myself, everyday in order to get up; that exhausted me and I couldn’t find the transcendence until now; the struggle also caused me to try to give up or I thought of giving up. Something totally contrary to my nature. Sad.
Allowing my experiences and feelings to measure my worth in life.
I do the same but extend this thought to other’s experiences and feeling to measure my worth in life?
A series of deep, unprocessed emotional traumas that led to a Rheumatoid Arthritis diagnosis.
I have numerous unresolved, unprocessed traumas that can never be resolved. I keep telling myself “stop, no sense in crying over spilt milk. Tried burning papers of journals & tears with no success. Thought shock treatment. Tried numerous anti anxiety/depression meds. Thoughts of blowing my head off to shut the noise.
A good cry &. counting ones blessings. & within a few days I’m better I hope I can learn new technique
Darlene, I’m so sorry to hear that that things have been difficult for you, and I sincerely hope that you will find a way to mitigate your pain and lead a more fulfilling life.. Do know that the world needs you and all the unique gifts you (and only you!) have to offer. Best wishes to you!
Hang in there! I believe God or source or whatever you call your higher power has bought you to this series for the healing you need. You are in the perfect place with the perfect opportunity for healing!
I can relate to that myself. I Nicolas feel frustrated with my my Bipolar and ADHD and also the fact that I speak to fast for people to understand either in Spanish or my English. I have bought programs from the Singing Zone , Tapping Solution, Steve G. Jones Clinical Hypnotherapist and many other organizations without getting any better. IT’s that constant chatter that tells me to buy more products online to help me deal with what I just said from my health. I have seen people far worse that I am and they seem happy working. I have been working with people with disabilities as an employee since August 2005 and I continued to this day. I admired a guy that is blind both ayes and still works on the workshop I was working with him. So if he can do it all I need is a little guidance to help me fix that chatter that helps me stay where i am now. I just like to comment that I was born in Chile on the 27 of June 1984 and I emigrated to Western Australia in April 2000. Thanks for reading this comment and I hope that it resonated with people.
Be gentle with yourself, Darlene. 🔆😇 🌏 🙏 🌺
Heey Kim how? I happen to had the same in life and am over it by Mindtraining and Food If you like to learn contact me…. I had to be 50 to see some way out and am now 10 years in … Bliss
I’d love to get any advise from you! I’m finally conquering a 12 year battle with chronic and severe neck pain. I just learned about body scans and deep breathing meditations, which works wonders! I’m 41 and essentially starting over.
Debbie.. Who or what is the pain in the neck.? Express your feeling to release the pain. Say you are angry when you are.
I allow my mind to underestimate myself into believing I’m not good enough.
I identify with this. It creates unnecessary fear and anxiety in my life.
Yes, this is me too!
Ditto, this is what I do.
My mind likes to pull me back into the past stories, repeating patterns of (conditioned) thinking and beliefs. I feel like I am being pulled back each time I try to move forward.
I experience the same.
Yes I know the feeling. Can’t I move forward.
I feel stagnate
That’s me in a nut shell
My mind can keep me in all sorts of negative feedback loops, mostly relating to low self worth. When I’m feeling disturbed inside, my mind can tells me I’m not good at my job, that other colleagues are like more than I am, that I’ll never find a partner and I’ll miss my chance to have a family, that I haven’t done anything meaningful or worthwhile with my life etc etc etc ….
As writers like Dr Wayne Dyer have said, and I’m paraphrasing, you’re here for a reason; you’re living a unique life and you are on purpose. You’re where you need to be for something amazing to start happening, you just need to open your eyes and heart to it and slow that over-acting and over-reactive mind down and start to draw in fresh air to invigorate the brand new you: the you that was always there: you just didn’t see it. Tomorrow is a brand new day; meet it and greet it fully with all your authentic heart. We’re all on your side.
My mind tells me daily that I need to be quiet and not speak my mind. It’s such a lie and I know it. Why do I listen to it??
interesting – you put a voice to what i feel.. thanks for sharing.. Alone I’m bright and amazing, Around other people the light goes out. Look forward to sharing the course with you.
My mind at times tells me to end it all. Plus it will present many physical triggers for me too
What do you mean
Allow my mind to tell me there is always something to fix
Getting so identified with my thoughts that it just becomes so normal to be worrying and doubting and thinking this is me. Ambient noise all the time. Deep attachments to certain sensitivities.. Also having enjoyable thoughts….but so many THOUGHTS all the time. This is my addiction.
I totally feel you Danielle I experience exactly the same….
I wake up thinking about alll the stuff I have to do
My mind can go to very dark places about money and people to the point of causing myself anxiety.
I have morbid horrible thoughts & wonder how could I think up this stuff, like where’d that come from?
Its called OCD. You should go talk to a therapist about it. Its God awful.
i have always struggled with feelings of being less than, with feelings of low self-worth…my mind constantly telling me I have to be better…and do better and be perfect so that people will accept me. My mind is wired with the central core belief that there is something wrong with me. This led me down the path of addiction as this seemed to be the only tool I had for quieting my mind and distracting myself from these painful messages. After a long journey with addiction i came to a bottom and started on the road to recovery which has involved letting lo and letting God and not believing what my mind is telling me
I wish you good health & strength. I made a choice to not allow substances to control me. I pray you can reach this plateau. You saw how strong your addiction was, now use that strength to defeat it. It’s a wonderful thing to treat your body like a temple. Our bodies are miraculous. It’s a gift, please use it wisely.
THAT I’m DUM AND I CANT DO IT
That I CANT DO IT.
For much of my life I’ve lived with anger and regret regarding the past.
I under estimate my accomplishments.
I believe that we get what we think about and what we talk about . So I am trying to be more mindful with each passing minute throughout my day.
I am really looking forward to going a bit deeper , beyond the thinking mind.
I’m thankful for this opportunity to learn and grow to the next level.
My mind is always a list of what I need to do, what I didn’t do, what should happen, what did not happen or how can I control my outside world, it’s exhausting.
A never ending list of good ideas or intentions, that become toxic. Hear you.
PTSD triggers from deaths and War frontline traumas. On Healing journey now…
I pray for your peace
I’m not successful enough and feel I haven’t proved myself where I should actually be and I’m so far away. I feel I’m almost there and sabotage myself time and time again. Afraid of failure and yet I’m walking into it when my success path is right in front of me.
Trying to be in control in a relationship, wanting to be loved at all times without really paying attention to the other persons feelings
In my experience it has cause great anxiety and feelings of depression. Telling me that it’s going to be like this forever. That I’ve been thinking like this for so long. That I cannot be present.
when I am tired, especially, almost all my thoughts about people, whether I love them or not are extremely negative. I have learned to just accept that if I am tired (I have a fatigue problem) just to know that it is all nonsense
I Battle every day with emotions and thoughts I’m not good enough and talking negative to my self as well.
I have found that the mind is a great practical tool but is not my friend on an emotional or spiritual level. The Heart knows best. 🙏 💜🙏
I have to do so many things, but I don’t have enough time
My mind always takes me back to painfully rejection experiences that I’ve had as a child. I started to notice that my mind sabotages my relationships by making me think that I’m not worthy.
I allow my mind to believe and reinforce my inadequacy as a mother.
My mind took over my life ending in a painful divorce from my husband and best friend. It was almost like watching a horror movie unfold in front of my eyes. I listened and in the end I suffered.
My mind never shuts off. It constantly thinks the “what if’s “ and worst case scenarios of any and all situations.
Having doubts when new opportunities arise
I dont even realize that I’m thinking negative. I carry guilt from my past. I long to get to a personal experience with God the holy spirit but I am all emotion and feel that I have no control. I dont know how to get there. I hear others saying they hear that inner voice. I never do… I go on all emotions and they are everywhere. Stress and anxiety control me.
you made me smile – if I hear one more story about the average joe finding that moment of enlightenment, or about how they dreamed about the cosmos and divine love – I’m going straight to the depression ward. No voices, no messages in a dream for me – feeling pretty left out, thanks. not giving up, but glad I’m not the only one.
I blame myself again and again for my ex’s suicide. Constantly filled with regret, guilt, and sadness. I currently have chronic headaches and chest pain.
Thank you for sharing such a personal experience. As we just learned from the above talk, it is one’s mind out of control that causes suffering. So your ex’s mind caused the suffering and suicide; you could not have been the cause. Also, I suffered from chest pains for many years and was filled with anxiety and sadness. I am healed of those pains completely now. I still have plenty to learn about the ‘letting go’ of the mind, but it is a wonderful journey. You will be free of this too. I can tell from your honesty that you are a beautiful person.
When irritation became anger so quickly that you don’t even think about it anymore
It’s so frustrating
I had/have negative thoughts and accusations toward a certain person. Kind of obsessive ones. Intrestingly this hate did not arise in the presence of her, but when I was alone, with no one around me. On the contrary, in the presence of her I felt deep sympathy.
Isn’t that weird?
That I won’t be able to live the way I want to live and be in my life.
My mind is constantly bringing up negative things that have happened in my relationship and tries to convince me now that my boyfriend isn’t good enough despite all his great attributes
My mind makes me widhdaw and get away from people because I get overwhelmed
just because our current culture worships the extrovert, hold your head up. Zero need to pretend and join the crowd.
The feeling of not deserving to be happy. sabotaging myself.
Past traumas constantly being revisited in my mind. telling myself i cant do things, things will go wrong, i am not as good as him/her so i wont even bother etc…
Last week I was in a suffering state. My mind told me that there were too many people stuck in our little house all the time and I am going crazy having them in my space 24/7. I was also down on myself because I was laid off in March and got rejected for two positions which I applied and went through 3 rounds of interviews for each one. After a long weekend of suffering, I realized I needed to elevate my state and stop allowing my fears to control my life. Once I made that decision, the world seem to instantly changed. I realized how grateful I am to have my kids, husband and in-laws during this pandemic, grateful we are all safe and healthy, and grateful we have the financial means to weather this storm. Once I accepted the circumstances, then I was able to breathe, release all the suffering, and move back to a beautiful state.
My mind was a very dangerous place, I have experienced several traumatic events in the past and the mind would pull me back to those experiences so frequently and trap me in a mental loop of suffering, it led me to anxiety, depression and schizophrenia and eventually attempting suicide.
Running in the background is often a worry about being judged. This mental activity is subtle, but it wears you down. For me, it has contributed to shutting down versus allowing myself to remain open to possibilities.
being in a bad relationship and not having the will to leave it because of fear of being alone.
I have been troubled by my mind since being a child. It’s full of anxiety and fear. Feelings of guilt and low self worth have haunted me all my life.
Ruminating thoughts of a failed 35 year friendship
My mind tells me I can’t keep up with my friends. I will slowly be isolated in my home. I should be ashamed because I didn’t make a lot of money last year. My boyfriend is disappointed in me. It is full of negative attack thoughts.
I want to run away from the thoughts that keep running through my head but they seem to run a lot faster than me
I always get scared of my future and start hating my self saying I am incapable.
I tend to compare myself against my coworkers and find ways I dont measure up.
My mind can convince me that I’ve got it really tough, that I am suffering more than the next person. This “poor me” state of mind is so dangerous because then my fuse becomes very short and I lash out with anger and resentment at the people around me, especially at the ones I care about the most.
Events trigger PTSD reactions.
I’m there right now. Catastrophizing about everything. Granted things aren’t great in reality but worrying doesn’t make it better.
My mind saw you on Oprah and your interview was beautiful especially resonated with a piece about how when you were in grad school or school you suddenly realised someone was thinking thoughts and you just stopped and said who is thinking?,,,Surprised to see you on utube with Tony Robbins …..but got so irritated WITH HIS WIFE BEING ALL SPIRITUAL. Was thinking is this because of Tony Robbins Metoo faux pas…why are they getting so chill now. and why is his wife doing all the ” Varanasi” talk. Mind just judging.Always judging…always irritated.
My mind can be dangerous when my executive function is hijacked and i feel overwhelmed with what to do next, 100 different ideas can come to me at once sometimes.
Noticing I am too hard on myself to achieve.
The mind telling me that i am not good enough to run a business and i can’t make it work. Thinking things have to be a certain way in the household, and getting stressed when they are not
Made you say a mean thing when you didn’t mean it when you were anfry
I have enormous difficulty making even the simplest decisions It feels quite crippling
Old traditions and wrong beliefs of about myself.
When I think about how are we even existing? I can think about it right now and my mind will take me to a place where I have a full on panic attack. It took me years to let it go and accept. I just couldn’t understand how we can exist in this moment and not in the next. Also how did we even get here?
I really am painful to myself sometimes
I have experienced my mind having really terrible and terrifying thoughts when I have been driving. I have also witnessed my mind giving a lot of negative self talk.
I sometime replay what happened in a bad breakup/betrayal and come up with “better” things I should have said or done in the moment. It doesn’t serve me
Having initiated my divorce two years ago, I have a constant battle in my mind that I will never be loved again, or at least that is what my ex-husband told me. I didn’t want to believe it but I think that deep down inside, plus the fact that I haven’t had a successful relationship since my divorce, I do believe it. Its the first thing that comes up in my mind when I am rejected, lonely or when I see others in successful relationships.
Ignore your ex’s mean spirited voice.
Overthinking. When relationships go off the tracks, I think I need to fix it and the more I try to fix it, the worse it gets. I have challenges letting go of things beyond my control.
The mind plays games and feeds negativity.
My mind tells me that I’m not love able and that I don’t deserve live
My mind’ s danger is it’s sentinels gone rogue. Yet, the chaos and confusion led me to seek serenity. We are where we were meant to be.
Accept and relax deeply, then magically- poof- you’re here in the unadulterated now and you didn’t even have to cross the paywall with your dollars.
My mind is constantly distracting me and fuzing my path. It makers me forget my potential and live life to the fullest. However it looks like my mind is nog really mine since its repeating a lot of negatieve opinions i’ve received from others earlier.
In my mind I fight battles that never actually occur. I continuously create scenarios where everything goes wrong. In actuality, most things turn out just fine. But, in my mind it’s Armageddon.
My mind is dangerous when i let it loop about things or people i have no control of.
As a young kid growing up and believing that money was a key to success and was a way too live by and the more I wanted the money the more dangerous my mind got. Through that way of living in hindsight now took me to such a leveL of separation from myself that confusion and pain plus outbreaks of victory was limited and short lived and very dangerous for me. I was convinced I was all that my mind is… now I begin a journey to discover and day by day I step back and seek that seeker and try to live with the reality of truth.
THINKING ABOUT ALL THATH CAN GO WRONG ON A DECISION AND PARALIZE.
live in the NOW. Yes, yes,… “all that” would be bewildering “at the clutch,” as it were. This is why we do it now, at presumably times of “rest” for people. Doing it once is amazing & freeing, but doing it…OFTEN. Again & again develops a “median” operating procedure. Many call this “enlightenment” and/or “transcending the mind/ego,” and/or any number of other permutations. Just wait for it…
My mind is a very busy place, with assorts of limiting beliefs and ideas, my mind is in constant judgement of what I eat, that I am fat that I need to lose weight, that I look old etc etc it has a regular loop of self loathing
Mind nourishing itself with guilt and self bashing makes it hard for me to really be at peace all the time. Dangerous place? In these particular moments of struggling, yes my mind becomes a dangerous place!
A good friend once told me the mind is a dangerous place to visit alone.
Continuous judgement and mental commentary about people, places and things, including myself. Judgements about how my day is going, spiritual ego flares up about what I could be doing better and how I haven’t kept up a yoga practice or been eating vegan lately.
Me too xx
My mind likes to replay events about dealing with a difficult boss over and over again. I don’t feel anger anymore but would love to stop having such thoughts enter my mind.
My mind can be very deceiving and cause me to have a not so good day when I know I can feel so wonderful.
When I was going to school, I always thought my objective should be money. In fact, my major was Finance. But as time has gone on, I have found that money is less and less important. If I had stayed on the money train, I would have been a mental wreck by now. But when I was on it, man I was a mess
I’m SOOO grateful that I took Andrew Carnegie’s advice to take control of my mind a few years ago. Life’s GREAT! Thank you, Michael Singer, for all your work! <3
It can steer you away from being in the present moment which is where peace resides ❤
Limiting, fear based, repeating thoughts. Fixated on negative and positive past experiences.
Yes. And my mind will conjure past memories that creates more fear or shame.
Worrying about my children’s future will they be ready for high school and beyond. Will others understand them and validate them? Even though they don’t need validation why think about smoother than what’s here now.
I have excessive thinking judging myself about what already happened at night. Now i am having trouble going to sleep between 1 am to 5am for the last 3 years since i had my 2nd child.
I am 12 years clean from drugs and working a 12 step programme. It helps but my mind is still fearful and negative at times
Making up a story of how ‘they all’ hate me because they are not calling, texting etc. And making up excuses as to why they should be doing that, Ignoring the voice that says i could get in touch first!
On days I compare myself to others, the day is wasted
With being bipolar its very much a double edge sword. Mania and depression can both be so rough until you learn how to handle it.. I have had many struggles in the past and doing so much better these days..
Keep up the fight!
I’m sure it can be tuff some days. Be strong.
If someone slights me, I start an internal dialogue of what I would say to them, how I would defend myself, all the arguments and points I would make and I basically go over this dialogue obsessively until I either argue with the person, or it eventually fades away in my mind, but not after a while, making me very upset and tired.
“Your mind can destroy your life.”
My mind puts me down and limits me from reaching my full potential.
I used to play soccer. I thought I wasn’t as good as most everyone else. As a result, I was not nearly as good at soccer as I could have been.
My mind stops me from experiencing life to the fullest by drawing my attention to the noise inside my head instead of being present in every moment. I don’t want to miss to die without fully experiencing life!
How other people’s behaviour, comments and opinions impact my whole day and how I feel about myself and inside myself and limit me going forward easily with my own life and what I want to achieve.
I worry that people are mad at me or dislike me, which causes me to push them away, which causes them to be mad at me or not like me.
My mind gets irritated easily when things do go a certain way, overthinks, exaggerates and magnifies situations. It’s like after things happen, I think what was all that about , why did I react or perceive the experience negatively and realize it has been my mind all along.
Whenever a significant challenge arise, my mind tells me that i can handle it and but i also get depressed at that instantaneous moment because my mind tells me that i needed to meditate right away. But i just don’t have the luxury particularly when you are outside or having a meeting.
My mind is a dangerous place when it won’t forgive. Sometimes it’s so hard to let go of the past when I’ve been hurt and I struggle to find deep and honest forgiveness.
My mind tells me that life will always be too hard and too difficult to withstand
I realised my mind is dangerous, now I’m caught in Spirituality ego where all j think about is how to put my mind right!
I can thinking of the most awful thing that I can imagine and then let that possibility prevent me from doing the thing I truly want to do.
Went through an illness and I’m fine now but my mind keeps scaring me about it and constantly questions “what if it reoccurs..”… living in fear and uncertainty.
My mind won’t let me have peace when dealing with ex boyfriends who are toxic and I Self sabotage.
The mind continually worrying about upcoming events, scanning my future with the view of controlling everything. Continually saying that ‘once we get past this event then we can focus on being happy’…obviously once an event is over there are a plethora of other things to take it’s place. The mind is never in this present moment
My mind is a perfectionist, picking on every little detail I do wrong.
My mind makes me do things (meditate exercise, call friends, clean the house etc) all the time, I am never allowed to relax, I always have to be productive
My mind makes dwell into the past. Keep thinking of whats happened.
I feel like I’m not in control over my thoughts, I have a heard time to control what I want to think about! It’s like the mind has it’s own power
My mental state fluctuates when I compare myself to others. I let a lot of negative thoughts come in when I feel unworthy, self doubt and compare my success, love life, health, social status, productivity, happiness to others
my mind is just confusing me all the time as in lm crazy had this when l was 20 and now lm 45 and its come back and its affecting my life all over but l have had some good days
I’ve realized that my mind always stop me for being a rich person becuase i want it so bad for having a lot of money so i can travelling.
My late husband came to the conclusion that he didn’t make mistakes, he WAS a mistake. In spite of 2 degrees and a PHD, , he was a very gifted man who helped hundreds and hundreds of people deal with illness and remedies, his mind took him to places where he believed he was never good enough. Such a shame as he was greatly loved by his children, his patients and me.
Getting frustrated then self medicating with alcohol
when you have thoughts causing unwanted emotions and you know it is just a thought but because it is unwanted your mind bugs you with it and your emotions react with it and you fear rise because thought with emotion meaning maybe you will attract it. then you get stuck in this unwanted loop.
Constantly telling me how I am not good enough, that I need to do better.
I always feel that other people are much more capable than me. That I am weak, fearful and not trying hard enough.
Exactly as you describe. Mind is off the tracks and bludgeoning me everyday. I feel beaten down for sure – everyday.
I so appreciate this teaching! I have an imagination the size of an overgrown giant. The giant is in the company of an angry hurting creative child who wants so much to be understand and loved for who she really is. Meditation, a practice I cherish and seriously practice daily, seems at time to be a battleground for “let go”.
Sometimes my mind tells me the wrong things to do or say, and gets me in a heap of trouble
My mind is 2nd guessing me. I am hiding from it. It knows my spirit is immortal. I have had experiences of synchronicity, being in the flow, touched by God, charismatically etc. Though able bodied, being 69 in the winter of my life, liking being responsible for and mostly accountable to just me and a cat..I am discontent with the earth plane, envious of the 3 family deaths (hospice experiences) of brother, mother and husband since 2013 ending in March 2019. Grief, sure but more about the relationships I did not have with them….I bought a solo kayak last year just b4 winter. I find peace in it on the lake. I am, when there, quiet in my mind. I need that calm, peace. Meditation, self-reiki healing, yoga are second choices.
In the past my mind has taken me suicide…convinced me that I was MEANT to die! Very scary place to be…since then, I’ve learned that the mind is NOT my friend…just a conglomeration of thoughts that constantly come and go on an endless loop…memories and imagination…nothing more nothing REAL! In essence it’s chewing the cud like a cow! Learning to get in touch with and trust the state of BEING, thoughtless being, is a challenge for me so far but it’s where LIFE is and so I practice…
My mind tells me it is dangerous to uncover my voice.
I am very aware of the voice controlling a lot of my daily life
My judgemental mind brought frustration and anger in a work situation that I could not control. Now, where I felt anger, I feel compassion.
There is hope!
I can’t hear
I can project into others and miss out on knowing or understanding them
I set spiritual goals (e.g. meditation, yoga, etc.) and then I feel guilty when I don’t do these practices or when I don’t feel the way I think I’m supposed to feel.
Allowing old hurts to remind me of where I’ve been in my life.
Dealing with fear and anxiety
I never live in the present. I am always thinking about “what if” I didn’t make that decision? What if I chose a different path? just name a couple. Then my mind goes to the future and worry about things I cannot control
For several years my mind told me that I wasn´t good enough. That I wasn´t qualified to my teching eventhough I have been working with my mindste for some years now. i have meditation to be helpful with all these mindchattered. I am in great progress, which means that I seldom have that kind of thoughts that belittele me. Thank you Mickey I am looking forward to the next session.
Love & Gratitude
My mind encourages me to believe I’m not good enough.
I stay trapped in fear and anxiety so much of the time. I can escape and get to the place of being in the present but then it’s like a”gotcha” attack out of nowhere of past and/or future.
My mind is causing me fears influenced by the experiences from
the past, which in result may negatively affect my attitudes and behaviors today, all based on false premises.
That i am alone.
My mind tells me I can’t do things and so I don’t – which makes me procrastinate
Took an epic dose of mushrooms and had a very bad trip when I was younger, I saw the darkest parts of my mind and it was the opposite of self love- it was complete self hatred.
My mind has been a very dangerous place when I believe my thoughts. Example: my mind tells me that my body is not good enough. It’s not thin enough, it’s not strong enough, it’s not young enough, it’s not attractive enough and on and on. Can you imagine that the ego tells you that the body it lives in is not good enough? How insane is that? Another example of the terrorist mind is projecting into the future some disaster, i.e. I’m going to go broke and land up living under a bridge. LOL I have to laugh at the insanity of it all. Here’s another one I eat and then I feel full, then my mind tells me what a big schmuck I am for eating too much, every single time. As I write this I laugh.
My mind is good at taking me into some what if scenarios that can be quite dark
Taking things that others do and say personally.
Generally it likes to try to instill fear by bring up Financial issues, likewise things regarding my physical appearance & it likes to tell me I’m too old to…..fill in th blank
My mind sometimes drifts off into fantasies and I sometimes willfully stay there because they seem easier than real life.
oh so many… my mind can tell me that someone looked at me a certain way and then goes in to a barrage of thoughts that something is wrong with me…
Persistent suicidal ideations and hating everything
I just quit my very safe and cushy job to find something that will give me more fulfillment and now I’m living off my savings. On a gut level, I know that everything is going to work out the way I want to, because I’ve experienced that enough times in my life already. But still my minds keep badgering me about safety. It keeps me focussed on that point in time when my savings run out and telling me that I need to find a job. Like right now. It’s almost like a parent telling you what to do. So I’m trying to find ways to focus more on what my gut feels and maybe Michael can show me a way.
I get caught up in past regrets, and poor decisions that I have made, that were life-changing and had serious consequences that I feel I’ll always be sad about, and paying a big price for. I know that this was in the past, and that I don’t know what I could have done differently, but sometimes I get stuck there, when I worry about my loved ones that I have affected. I suffer from a sense of low self-worth and esteem, but it is also partially due to a back injury and how that changed my life. It can be complicated, and I know the only way is forward, and the only time we ever have is right now.
Self pressure, feeling not enough time to complete everything needed, thoughts come up from past experiences that are triggered from something in the present, that shift mood even when not intended to think about these things, wanting to hurry up and finish everything so then can relax…and attachment to thoughts and experiences
I just can’t get it right. And I’ll never get it.
Becoming hypervigilant about certain health converns
I can get stuck in over thinking what’s next and how can I achieve sucess
Compulsively thinking of the past and future, which in turn takes away from my life and the people around me. Then becoming identified with those thoughts which brings me into a state of unconsciousness.
Lying awake in bed upset with past relationship issues, what he did, what he said, etc. only to wake the next day bitter about my relationship instead of grateful. A vicious cycle.
My mind tries to sabotage me by making me do things that are detrimental to my success.
I second guess myself all the time.
My mind is never satisfied with my efforts.
just worry and stress which keeps one from feeling joy
The mind can be a very dangerous place when one has an eating disorder. It may tell you that in order to be happy and accepted you must be thin. The mind tells you if you’re thin you are perfect. It tells you if you are perfect you will then be happy and accepted. Hah! The mind doesn’t know what it is talking about because you are miserable trying to be perfect.
As I was graduating from college, I was afraid of becoming an adult, so I joined a religious cult.
I make up stories in my mind that make me unhappy. I invariably find out these stories are not true.
I am an airline Captain who is experiencing once again the fourth huge backslide in my career due to things being completely out of my control. While I try hard to help others and be inspirational, I have to always tell myself that my identity and my family’s financial health is not based on my job – that I can make myself untethered. I want to break free from these chains but I don’t know how.
My mind chatter tries to tell I’m not good enough all the freaking time.
I am constantly worrying about my health, because of my mothers illnesses I experienced as a child. My mind tells me constantly, that something is not right with me.
Feeling dispondant when no matter what course I take to heal or improve my osteoarthritis..it doesn’t get much better. On a subtle yet very deep level I fear for my future and how I will manage to keep independent . And over time have had to stop many physical activities that bring huge joy.
The never ending if I just finish this I will be ok and I will then have time to be present in my life.
I have read both of your books and have been implementing much of your teachings and even taught my kids the difference between thought and truth. We talk about the good wolf and the bad wolf. What is SO interesting to me with this is how I can see these thoughts and separate myself from them and then certain ones still consume me for minutes even hours before I am able to step back from them. Mom guilt isn’t one of those. During this pandemic, I have seen my children’s hearts break at times and because I am working from home there is no break between motherhood and employee and I am not always showing up for them the way I do when there is a definitive line…there is no “work time”’during the day without strings attached or sacrifices and it has been very painful. But this guilt is All in my mind, yes my kids are complying BUT that doesn’t mean I am a bad mom!!! It is like certain parts of my mind I have separated from but mom guilt still sits very much on top of me? So strange, thank you for all you do 🙏
Anxiety sneaks into my thoughts and takes over my day
I find I’m constantly waiting for the next negative thing to occur in my life and my loved ones lives.
I’m not very kind to myself. I people please in the hope that others will like me, but if I talked to those people in the way that my mind talks to me? I wouldn’t expect any one of them to stick around. I vividly imagine how I want experiences to play out, which means I’m always disappointed when they don’t. In moments when I’m truly happy and in flow… it’s always when I don’t set up expectations, I just allow things to be.
I get so caught up in my thoughts that I spin out of control. I feel so lost and am desperate to find my inner self!
I’m getting too old to achieve success as an artist.
I’m struggling with having a peaceful mind even while meditating after suffering the loss of a loved one. I try to deal with it the best way possible but sometimes I feel like my mind doesn’t let me.
My mind makes up stories that I am unloved. I then abuse alcohol and my subsequent behaviors make me unlovable.
my mind tells me I need others to be happy and that I am not enough
My personal experience comes from being abandoned as a child and having a low sense of self worth for a long time, I’ve had to work on my own mind and being co-dependent and to know no one else can save me from my anxiety. The first realization of this was Singer’s principle- you are not your thoughts, they’re negative and they never shut up. I grew up in a religious household where It was told that i should reprimand myself for thoughts and that i was guilty instead of distinguishing it as a neurotic mind.
My mind tells me that I do not deserve to be happy
It makes me feel anxious and fearful of negative consequences if I pursue ambitious outer changes.
In certain areas I’m consumed in fear of not being enough
My mind tells me: No matter what I try to do, I will always suffer.
My mind is constantly judging , being critical and hard on myself and others around me.
I always feel i have to make or keep friends and family happy, to then make me feel good about myself and make me feel wanted and loved, i feel that just being me is not good enough
Mind keeps worrying about things that can go wrong in the future which has not happened, or things that have gone wrong in the past. This severely limits me. I wish I could focus fully on the present moment and not worry about the past that I cant alter or the future that has not happened.
I am incessantly plagued by cosmological and existential pondering: essentially, I HAVE to know WHO, WHAT, WHY and HOW at the deepest level (when and where occupy me, too, but they are not as forceful). I cannot accept simple and unreasoned answers such as everything in existence is all due to one (or many) ineffable GOD (or gods).
So I want to know, who am I really? What am I personally, what am I part of and what am I separate from? What is this thing we crudely label THE UNIVERSE? Why do I exist or, more philosophically, why do I think I exist? Why is there a universe for me to think I exist within? How did it all come about, what’s the ultimate purpose, and where does it go and/or how does it end? Is this just a place where life happens for a short time and then is simply extinguished for no reason at all? What’s the point of it all?
Thinking deeply about this nearly all the time has led me to some dark places, such as considering this existence a deviously designed hell just for me (or purgatory, since it hasn’t been all that bad) and that if I don’t find the correct way out I’ll be doomed to do it all over again. This is just one example of many cosmological constructs my mind has pulled out of the ether. This, I suppose, is pretty good personal example of how the mind can be a dangerous (and fraught) place.
Religion was so firmly imprinted in my mind that often i couldn’t see the goodness in myself and others.
The mind can be a huge source of anxiety and fear – if you allow it. Or a huge source of transformation – if you allow it.
I have made some bad property investments which have come back to haunt me, now that the property market has collapsed. It has taken a great deal of fightingAndre with myself to realise that those investment decisions do not define me and that I can and should be far more than the stuff I own. I am only now starting that very exciting journey of learning
In spite of lifelong efforts in schooling and learning, self-doubts about capacity remain a constant. Incapacity too to rely on others
My mind tell me I’m not deserving
It’s just complicates my life… when trying to analyse everything what I am doing. My super ego tries to convince me that I am not good enough, not prepared enough, not unique enough to do ART
It’s just amazing the power that the mind have when it comes to sabotage something against our own selves. I’ve been caught up in that place, way so many times, when fear just paralyzed me.
So many judgments on myself, from myself, from my projection of what I think others think of me. For having a bad temper, an over active nervous system and startle response, for being mean, for being fat, for being a bother . . and a bad step-mother.
In the past, I allowed myself to get pulled into believing that everything was against me after so many years of being in a controlling and isolating environment, and then got into some destructive habits to try to escape that and feel good/accepted/not ground down. In retrospect, I lacked the perspective, self worth, and confidence to deeply question things and realize that was not necessarily how my existence had to be.
My mind gets overwhelmed easily with all the details it thinks it needs to care of
Beliefs that when others hurt me, I take too many perspectives and time to forgive or not forgive.
I wake up begrudging my past mistakes. “I beat myself up” per day, about bad family connections- even though I had good intentions.
my mind keeps planning my future, be it near future or years later. it gets in the way when i rest myself after a yoga practice, then i fell sorry for not fully enjoying the rest…the mind distracts me from a lot of things in the name of preparing for the future.
Oh that mind…. paranoid. Dealing with my partner and his ex wife caused full body break down psoriasis over 80% of my body!!!!! I was crying from my skin. It was a cruel time and my mind was the enemy. Programs of rejections and being laughter at, lied to and used…. sometime true but not the amount of times my mind told me to be true xxx
I constantly berate myself and second guess all my decisions based on what the voice tells me everyone else will think.
My mind goes off the tracks to the past when I am dealing with my husbands cancer. I lost my first husband to illness as well. My first husband was a few months younger than me, we were in our early 30’s and the diagnosis kept changing. It went on for years, He suffered mental illness which is not similar to to cancer. My current husband is suffering physically but not mentally, like I am. He has a positive attitude and trusts the medical treatments he is receiving to prolong his life. We are also close in age. I am fifty six years old now, and work two jobs. My husband’s pension was not as promised from the state of Rhode Island after working thirty five years, I will receive no benefits. I bought the house we live in, but cost of living does to match my teaching salary. I am scared. I want to stay where I am, truthfully it’s would cost more to move…. So many layers of fear infused with my past raising children on my own financially was challenging. I always felt my children were gipped. I have a tiny pension $5000.00 after working in the Public School System since 1997 that also does not provide health insurance. I am on a State healthcare system.
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I have a fear of death that I have had since I was very young.
My mind drove me to destruction of my marriage and deep dark suicidal moments in life. I am still looking for way out. Michael, you appeared in my life in the right moment. Thank you. I cried when reading the surrender experiment and the untethered soul!
my mind sabotaged my soul for many years..
Searching for ‘Love’ in all the wrong places
Fear of failing and not taking a chance. My thoughts of self doubt were hindering me from taking a risk..
My mind tells me I’m a loser in the most silent subtle ways all day with everything I do. I have a creative business and sell my earrings on line and when I don’t have any sales my mind says very softly… what’s happening?… isn’t my stuff good enough?..where’s my life going?…what am I doing? I”m nearly 50! no one likes me… I’m still working part time at a pathetic job getting paid less than what it takes to live and on it goes… all day…. I have no passion.. why am I here! It’s awful…
My mind keeps telling me that I’m 40 years old and haven’t achieved anything. It compares me to my peers who seem more sorted, more established and seemingly have it all. Its down on me for staying in the same job for years, even though I don’t like the job – of course when I think about changing that job, my mind starts going on about how difficult it will be for me to change careers and do something creative! I know that its trying to keep me safe but its also a total schizophrenic and needs help!
It is constantly criticizing and judging and sabotaging relationships
I have allowed my dysfunctional programming to dictate my self worth and therefore create my fear of financial responsibility and abundance. Being aware of it is one thing, how to change it is another story. I keep hearing a voice that says, “Who do you think you are”, “Why do you deserve abundance when there are women in other parts of the world who live in poverty”… “Who really needs another painting” “You’re not as qualified as other artists” ..wow, it’s ugly in there LOL!
My mind was creating so many problems that at one point I could when at the office, could hear a conversation in my head and even visions. I was petrified and sought help
My mind likes to tell me I’m unworthy and too lazy to ever be able to achieve anything so why bother trying!
It constantly tells me I’m a failure …
Thinking I’m not good enough
I’m presenting seeking a divorce and I’m dealing with the pain of betrayal. I know I must now move on from the hurt, anger and sorrow. I need to re-write my future without these these emotions dominating my mind and heart.
I live in fear and anger everyday! I hate myself.
well I am always doubting myself, feeling worthless, one day along time ago, I just decided to set some habits>>>. the way I come home, the way I talk work., eat etc. something that made me excepted, because if I did these perfect I wouldn’t doubt my self. Its hard to be in the spot light for very long. eventually this left a lot not learned. I became stale. sad and depressed . I guess I want to be liked and I just plain and simple was not presenting my true self. Got lost into the habits. cost me too. my decision making sucked and now I am climbing out of these habits . when I do art that is the real me. it shows up big time. (harmony , fun, focus, beauty, inclusion with others) so maybe my life should be a canvas of my expressions of me. every one really loves my art, I love my expression of my art. which is the true me.
Shutting out thoughts by continually playing some kind of noise until the body cannot sleep is such a dangerous game and one I have played…now try unlearning that and healing from the damage it creates.
My entire life, I am the worrying type. I have been living with lots of fear, I can’t escape it. By a miracle, I found the Untethered Soul and this course. For the first time I saw a glimpse of hope. I really want to learn more and see whether I can enter a new way of living and ease all the emotional pain I have had.
My mind likes to find fault. With others and myself and situations.
Sometime I fear negative results from an interaction with another person and keep thinking of ways to avoid the interaction. As a result I suffer a lot in anticipation.
The mind can trick you into a false sense of self that leads to unhappiness.
Living as a victim, complaining all the time.
My mind tells me things like how I’ll just fail again, so why bother. I am defeated before I even begin. It also judges me very harshly, mirroring the worst of societal prejudices. As a result, I never feel good enough.
It’s see everything negative
Seems to me part of the problem is believing the negative commentary on the mind and identifying with those thoughts. Part of the way out might be to step back and observe the negative chatter which is usually quite familiar, as the compassionate observer, and remembering that we are that witness!
if i continue listening to my mind i will stuck in the same situation for ever… nothing will ever change and i will miss the chance of living my live because of all the bad and anxious things my mind is telling me
How quickly we can take offence at someones or somethings action. By relaxing and releasing those thoughts our response is kinder and less personal. Very helpful. Xx
Entering in relationships and thinking they will be the cure all
I have problem stopping my mind thinking about a particular person or thing. No matter what I do it does not go away. I hate it. I feel like I have no control of my mind.
Always Telling me that I am not good enough. If inly I did this or that i would be happy, successful. Focusing on what I don’t have , obsessive compulsive.
Always telling me that I am not good enough… If I only did this or that I would be happy or successful and loved or popular… Always chasing fulfillment and expectance!
I am suffering from intrusive thoughts, ocd, fear of same thoughts etc….
I wake up , feeling myself cry often with a sadness hard to express, so many challenges , but my mind has always taken on the worlds challenges , and aren’t they so big. My picture of certainty is we cannot be one, whole without the other, hard to change my mind? So when I’m in the habit of ritual , it is daily prayer, meditation , journaling and breathing exercises that change the day. Why I sway ? brings about mind Guilt for sure ,because my heart trust that I know better about our inner world. Thank you , need people such as yourself, as a reminder I’m only doing this to myself no matter what is going on around me. Called faith based heart work for me. A place where God alone resides .
Aside from good business which I have been very blessed with if my intimate and emotional relationship with my dear wife of 27 years is not in order nothing else matters
My mind is very critical of me. I have a very positive outlook on life and don’t complain about the the world around me but I can not shake the criticism on myself and that I am not good enough to do what my soul craves. I am not intelligent enough, people will not listen to me. I can go on and on about what my mind keeps me from doing and moving forward so I look forward to this course maybe this time i found the “thing” that will shake me up.
I have been constantly criticizing myself that I am not enough in almost any aspect : not skilled enough, not creative enough ,not skinny enough
Thoughts of having no control over your emotions. Non stop of the same outcome.
i certainly can relate. my mind tells me a lot about what i should have done different, that i did´nt perform at certain events well enough, that nobody wants to know about what i do aso.
I can be walking down the street and the mind goes “what success have you gotten in life?” and then there’s massive comparison with my peer and feeling really behind in terms of what I’ve done in life. Or like a complete failure.
My past dictates the future because I m afraid to change. I would rather stick to what I know even if it’s a painful truth, rather than take a chance on the unknown.
I’ve had days recently where overwhelming thoughts come into my head and I reach what I think is the lowest place I could ever go and then a day later I can do even lower than that. It’s concerning because it leaves me w suicidal thoughts and I live within walking distance of the Golden Gate Bridge which concerns me.
Anytime I don’t have fortitude of the mind, it’s hard for me to feel and speak with gratitude…the mind can be very dangerous if we are not mindful.
Not being seen or heard by husband or eye contact
Perseverating on issues from the past that I cannot change
My mind takes me to a dangerous place because it keeps going back to places and situations in the past that make me resentful and depressed
Learning nonattachment is difficult. But so worth it.
my mind likes to repeat every bad thing I’ve done and doesn’t share the good things I have done
I constantly go back and forth between “I can do this” and “why bother, you’ll never succeed”.
I believe I have been to that place of bliss, but how to live there is a mystery. It’s almost as the mind has given me a glimpse of heaven, and will no longer allow me access. My mind prefers I live in self doubt, self loathing, and darkness.
Like the saying goes, two steps forward three steps back. However, I am here and I will go on.
Forgetting to breathe and remember who I truly am. Getting wrapped up in ANTS. Until I remember who I am. …
holding onto a judgment about someone else
An example of this for me is worrying about upcoming events and creating in my mind what could go wrong instead of enjoying the moment…sabotaging myself. Yikes! this is so crazy…looking forward to having some tools to not let my mind do that to me and wreck what could be an absolute fantastic experience
Enjoyed your book Michael the Untethered Soul! Thank you!
My mind can at extreme times just tell me to get up and walk away in that second and I’ve made life changing decisions in a split second because my mind has told me to do it. I can’t decide if this is a good thing or a bad thing. From an inside perspective it’s resulted in inner peace from a troubled situation , from an outside perspective it’s made it a harder journey. I do know that my mind had the power to direct me in that moment and I followed instantly rightly or wrongly
Divorce and ruminating over it.
The suffering mind is a daily battle. From physical appearance, being desirable, smart enough, and interesting enough. I am currently struggling with feeling numb and detached from people and my spiritual guide – energy.
About 25 years ago I was going through a challenging time in my life and when driving through the hills one day I heard the thought which said “it would be really easy to drive over the edge right now and there would be no more worry.” In that moment I felt such a separation between being the listener and the thinker that I was not prepared to hand my life over to a random thought. I have never experienced that type of thought again. ♥️
I strive every day to be in the moment. Its so hard. It takes a smell or a sound to send me back 15 plus years to memories I don’t want. Those memories always are negative. Why? Why does my mind want me to remember negative? I have so much happy in my life. Why is it so hard to stay here and now? Why is a bad experience more remembered then a positive?
Some thoughts have kept me from living fully, such as fear of not being good enough prevented me from even trying to do certain things. Sabotage… many thoughts are repetitive and often negative. I’m now becoming more aware … know they don’t serve me and don’t have my best interest in mind. Yes I believe there is another way of being
I tend to perseverate regarding my past behaviors and situations I could have handled better.
Being a stay at home mom currently, my mind continuously questions if I can be successful again in the workplace and that it’s going to be difficult to find a job etc.
My anxiety can be overpowering
Terminal cancer diagnosis. Really turned inward to see how much that life wasn’t working for me. A blessing
Lot of constant confusion and low feeling
My mind is a mess most of the time and I tend to be impulsive- very dangerous indeed! It has talked me into making brash , foolish moves more times than I can even count.
Lately I’ve been ruminating on worries about my family members (who are struggling with their own difficult life events)). Realizing that I need to find a way to empathize without taking on their problems.
M’y .mindde Drove me to stop sleeping for a few weeks
I had a psychotic break from a medication and my mind was completely not mine for five days. It taught me not to assume a doctor knows best, and now I have quite a bit of an opinion of what will or will not go in my body.
I have been ruminating about issues my family members are having. Realizing I have. been letting my mind go unsupervised ☺️.
It is hard to feel happy when I am so happy cause I am always ready for the happiness to end horribly
How my mind can totally control my life and experiences. How when depressed – life stops. All because of the mind that I wasn’t able to control.
My husband walked out on our 26 year marriage 6 years ago & my life collapsed.
I have felt bad about myself ever since and stuck in not knowing what to do with the remainder of my life.
Second guessing parenting decisions. Was I to hard , not strict enough ? Did I screw them up? Are they Happy? Will they be okay someday when I’m gone?
I see how my ego is a conditioned and predictable mind. I do not believe in my worth of the best for me
I have had a Wonderfully Beautiful mind for most of my life… … now I am attacking myself (Somehow) it has hit me in My Solarplex Chakra and is making me ill with suffering pain and severe nausea…… I can’t eat , drink, or keep anything down for bouts lasting 10-16 days. This has gone on for 11 years ….I’m holistic and have been trying to just believe I can rid it of it with my own powers of positive energy and strong belief in self healing …. Sort of like, (well it hasn’t killed me yet… ) like the PROOF IS IN THE PUDDING) There are so many Variables……. . ..Maybe you could give me some insight! Karna
Wake up with a messive mind.
About achievements in comparison
My mind is a bully and tells me im not good enough so I dont want to do anything and blame others for my problems – when it is me.
I dont like that Im not more social. I dont smile enough. Im not motivated. Im not more loveable,compassionate,aware.
My mind saying I dont think Im unlovable but I .must be. It’s been proven to me over and over again.
My shoulda-woulda-coulda’s since my son died of an accidental fentanyl overdose 4 years ago. They can play over and over in my head and heart. They are my truths. I feel I need to accept and move forward.
My mind likes to compare my life situation with others, who I believe have it so much better.
An incident at my workplace where I was unsupported put a staff member in a very dangerous place in the hospital where I work. I feel somehow responsible and I had an anxiety attack at work because of it and now am off work for a few weeks.
Mind at 3am is fearful of my future with medical diagnosis and I practise overcoming by choosing faith over fear
My mind brings up past mistakes in my waking minutes which makes it difficult to get going with my day
sometimes I feel like a squirrel running in a continuous wheel…going round and round.
Givin lots of unfortunate scary events that took place in my life as a little child.I became a slave to my Own mind.Ive gone through lots of depression,anxiety,fear,unexceptance..As I act in these states,I became aware that my 3 year old daughter is watching me 24/7 in these states and it would hurt me to see her think it’s ok to be like this.My mother was.So this is my breaking point,I’m breaking this dangerous thinking chain!TODAY!!!
I can totally relate! I also had a very traumatic childhood and all these years later I’m aware that it left me with a feeling of not being safe and I’m easy to catastrophize! Where others seem to think bad things will not happen to them, I expect terrible things to happen to me!
I’m generally pretty stable and calm, but the mind will often take over and make up stories about life, myself and others. I want to just observe, like a theater play, and remember to enjoy the ride. But often I get caught up in judging and identify with the characters, and feel anxiety when I anticipate upcoming events and distractions.
Understanding what is in my control and vice versa. Letting go of that is harder than it sounds.
Just today, I noticed my mind critiquing me after a breakup with my boyfriend and my career heading south. Your course has been a Godsend on not letting things spiral or getting hooked. Thank YOU!
My mind is quick to tell me that I’m not enough. Not smart enough, thin enough, quick enough, thoughtful enough… I’m tired of it making me feel bad.
I. compare it to digging up a corpse and lamenting things if the past rather than just letting them be things of the past giving me space for thing s in my present.
When my brother and sister lived with me a few years ago, My mom came to live with me thus they came also. I bothers me from time to time.
I constantly get pulled into making negative comparisons with other peoples lives which send me into blaming my husband for our problems. This only makes me miserable. My husband too!
Constant chatter and doubt.
I feel as if I am constantly being ambushed by a voice/power that makes me question my competence and worth when I least expect it. Knocks me off my balance.
My mind keeps telling me to excel in every thing I do instead of enjoying the experience. As a result I am never satisfied.
Thank you! My mind is dangerous place for telling me I’m not enough.
I was talking to my 23 year old grandson last night and somehow lost the call. I texted him and when he didn’t answer, I called him several times. He never answered so I called his dad to see if he was home and was ok. I was worried and literally pictured that someone clobbered him and that he was lying in a pool of blood. When I told my husband, he said, rather annoyed, that I do that all the time! I really saw how my PTSD kicks in due to a traumatic childhood and a very traumatic experience that was ongoing over the past 6 years! The first place my mind goes is into catasrophizing!
Thank you for your comment. For my entire life, my mother catastrophized everything. It used to drive me insane! I didn’t understand it and I thought she was such a negative person and wouldn’t let me enjoy anything. I Saw later in my life that it was all based in fear. I just know something horrible happened to her in her childhood. She may not have even remembered it, but it ruled her life and mine. I have compassion now, but sadly for both of us so much of it came after her death. Your comment opened my heart more to her and understanding her. I thank you for that. It’s great that you know where your fear comes from with this. You already have the first step to healing. I can only imagine the freedom that could have come from us being able to talk about it, rather than each of us just reacting to each other blindly and not in a good way! Of course, that’s another thing my mind likes to bully me about on occasion 😁
I feel I’m in a repetitive spin cycle, wake up feeling low for no particular reason and spend the first part of the day trying to raise my vibration
I can spiral downward or upward
when my mind prevents me from seeing my own ego & the way it works
Total disillusionment with the evils and unnecessary drama in human behavior and how that affects our surroundings and the world and where that takes me.
My mind has gotten horribly judgmental. My husband got ill from traumatic brain injury, which is very difficult for me. We can no longer live the life that we planned as older adults. And I am constantly judging him and myself. I find I constantly think about what would have happened if I didn’t marry him, if I had made different choices, if I had let a police officer shoot him when he went crazy rather than fighting everyone to protect him. I then start judging myself on how horrible I am, how mean I am, how . . . . it goes on and on.
I love your honesty! You wrote just the kind of thing that goes through my head sometimes that I judge myself so harshly for. Yet, I have no judgement for you, just respect for your courage and honesty. Perhaps I will stop being so hard on myself for my “evil” thoughts! I mean, for gods sake, we are human and I’m betting everyone has similar thoughts and feelings at different times in their lives. I hope for you the very best!
I couldn’t see the beauty in me, as others did
When I got any kind of rejections my mind starts to repeat the situation over and over and complains about how unfair life is
I can be feeling good about myself progressing in small tasks & then my mind will start condemning myself for being less than what I think I should be. or what my daughter reminds me of how my mom was a better gma then I am now to her kids & she says so
When it comes up with the shoulds… the have to and the you better’s.
Creates expectations, finds ways to make achievements seem not quite good enough, creates an unattainable mental picture and can be very harsh. Also constantly worries about what people think to the point of making stuff up. All in a day’s work brainy old boy!
A dangerous field of lies.
I will be happy when…
The world is a dangerous place, play small, be quiet.
Severe postpartum depression, with existential questions. I never in a million year thought I’d be going through this.
Why can’t I loose weight? I need to make so many house repairs, how will I pay? When should I retire? How will I get it all done by myself?
My mind constantly reminds me that I’m not good enough and tries to highlight my weaknesses and flaws, making me feel very insecure and doubt myself. Creating extreme fear and anxiety my whole life that I’m not able to be at peace and love myself.
My mind used to be a constant annoyance, however now even when it spouts off I do not react, I just listen and carryon, taking or leaving what it has to say.
My mind can quickly go to “Fear” which has kept me from doing quite a few things I know I would have enjoyed. I have worked in the last five years & find I’ve been able to jump outside the box and start new beginnings by putting faith over fears.
I am swimming against a tsunami of regret and that I’ll never get it right and that it’s too late in life for me to find the life I was meant to live.
The mind in high school how it destroys a person into thinking getting are good enough. Because of all these experiences.
I wake feeling at peace and within minutes I’m anxious and dont believe in myself and feel really sad that I am thinking this way. I am then mean to myself because I am like this. its a vicious cycle
I fight with my dear friend and businesspartner back and forth about how much were both not yet behaving as enlightened beeings – and it gets messy regularly 🙂 – such a weird thing to happen….
Living in a constant state of fear and paranoia. When I don’t have something, I fear I’ll never get it. And when I do, I’m afraid I might one day lose it.
My name is Kate, and my story goes a little like this. I got married young to who I thought was the man of my dreams. When I was pregnant with our son, I found that he was sexting a teenage employee. I was devastated. I tried to bring it up at dinner with the family (my parents and his parents) but not one person acted like I even said anything about what I had found on his phone outloud. I cried, and no one cared and life went on. Later on, things seemed to be a little better, he didn’t leave his phone around and I acted like everyone else, like nothing was wrong. Then came my youngest daughter. My mother-in-law was a raging alcoholic since before I met her. She stopped liking me after that evening where I spoke about finding out that her son was sexting teenage girls at work, and started treating me and speaking to me like I was complete blithering idiot everytime we were together, which was at least twice a week. Very emotionally abusive. I began to drink more wine, more frequently at the end of my day to drown out my feelings of betrayal. My sister in law was a carbon copy of her mom, and in the eyes of her mother could do absolutely no wrong. And was famous for starting feuds during trips to Mexico, ending with my mother in law having too much to drink at dinner and threatening to beat me up in front of the family. Once home things with my husband were not good. He didn’t stand up for me at all he just let his family rip into me whenever they felt like. The last day we went to his sister’s house we had too many drinks with their neighbors and she got her nose bent out of joint and spent the evening yelling at me in front of all her guests, and my husband once again sat and said nothing to stand up for me. I didn’t want to be there at all anymore and cried to go home and leave and take the kids, but he knowing that I had too much to drink threw the keys to the van at me shoved me so hard I fell into the door and told me to get out of his sight. Go home if I didn’t want to be there, he was staying. We had been drinking that evening a lot, so in my emotionally broken state I got in the van and began to drive home. I didn’t get far before I crashed. When I phoned him from the rcmp’s cell to tell him what happened he just said kay, and hung up on me and the next day told my father that he wished I had died and that if there would have been a funeral, he would have had not one good thing to say about me. Then a few days later he got mad at me and beat me almost to death in front of my two youngest children, and when the police spoke to me and the social workers came to ask me what happened I lied to them and told them I did these terrible things to myself because I was clumsy. 3 months later the constable came by to check in with me and told me that my husband was a total piece of garbage and I deserved to be loved and treated nicely, not what he was doing to me. And I finally got the courage to leave. And it’s been a hard road, but I’ve learned that the mind can destroy you if you let it and make you absolutely miserable and broken. Or you can chose to get up, and hold your head up and soldier through and look at the world as a beautiful place still and try to make a beautiful life with what you have, and find things to be grateful for every day. It’s not easy but it’s worth it
I have a big problem with our Covid lockdown and social distancing rules in Ireland and it often stresses me out.
I blamed my mother for so many years for how I felt about myself inside .
My Mom was a lovely caring woman .
For some reason as I grew into my teenage years , I found it more & more difficult to please her .
I spent too many years of my adult life as well trying to gain her approval.
Thank- fully I did have very positive people put in my life who mentored me .
Yet my sense of myself was still based on other people who liked me .
I made poor choices.
Because I continued to believe a lie about myself that another person “put” in my head .
As a result my Mom & I often argued a lot .
I truly believed she didn’t love me .
And I truly believed No one would truly love me if they knew “ the real me way deep down inside .
So course I chose people in my life – especially love relationships that reinforced my beliefs about myself .
These relationships often turned out badly .
The complete shift in my life
Came from turning my life over to God every day .
I was baptized & invited Jesus into my life to be my Lord & Savior .
I do take my own will back .
When I do this my mind returns to a state of selfishness – a “what’s in it for me “mentality
And proceed to going about trying to make things happen .
Which causes my mind to be troubled if I see that life outside me is not going MY way !
Living in surrender means turning the reigns back over to God & Trust Him .
His Thoughts are so much higher than my thoughts .
He always leads me to an innner space of wellness .
My mind is at peace – my being is at rest .
When I sit still with Him in stillness – He fills me up with the abundance of HIs love for me .
He continues to renew my mind every day – as long as I am willing to seek Him. .
Sometimes my mind wanders back into the past – instead of fully living in present moment .
When this happens I suffer In my mind body & spirit .
And I can find no peace Until I turn the reigns back over to Him .
I have a habit of worrying about insignificant things…..almost like counting sheep but accumulating things to fret about instead.
I feel terribly lost in my thoughts so i try to not think at all now most of the time i feel “blank”
Envy fear and greed
I was suicidal last year
The work of the current round of experience … we are all eating the fruit …
No matter what I do …. achieve it is never good enough and I continue to chastise myself for supposedly failing short
Thank you so much and I have to remained my self ” be kind to my mind”
my mind is a dangerous place when I think about the past and wish it was my present and future.
Unprocessed grieving…. Death of husband and child
I am experiencing negative thoughts at the 2 and 1 yr anniversary of challenging family events. I have had sleep disturbances and thoughts that another incident looming. My mind is in rewind and I want to respond to try to control outcomes. I also want my environment to make me feel better; kids be happy, my husband to do what I hope for, and me to be ‘better’ so I can be happier more often.
A very active negative mind. When I am on a really positive track, it seems that someone or something starts to push buttons and i then fall into the trap of negativity and self doubt. I really need to watch for this as it sometimes tares me apart.
you are aware of it and that is the first step into working on it.
I remember being there, and now it takes me less time to get out.
Hi Fraser, I can totally relate. Since early childhood I have experienced Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and it has mostly manifested as negative thought patterns about myself and self worth. The worst manifestation over decades have been negative self destructive thoughts about my physical health an appearance. So bad at times that I was suicidal and manifested the effects of these thoughts in my physical appearance. Over the years I have managed this problem somewhat successfully with intense physical Exercise, Yoga, Meditation, Dancing, Prayer, Reiki, Shamanic workshops and other teachings. I still have bouts of severe mental disturbance that results in physical stress, low self esteem, suicidal thoughts and insomnia. My mind has always been my biggest adversary and ever so often my best friend, even if just for a very short burst of positivity. I find that focusing on my emotions instead of my thoughts, when I can manage it, helps a lottv y5g
My mind says the only way out of my pain is through meditation.
My mind says I’ll never be able to mediate!!
you get to prove it wrong, your pain is talking to you and all you have to do is listen. The listening is the meditation where you will find comfort and peace.
I always think there is always something more and I have this feeling inside just be there almost all the time.
My mind can hijack my day and make me completely miserable all day for no apparent reason.
Oh i agree and I too have this issue. The no reason part is so confusing as if there was an internal button that is on autopilot.
I do know that it has to do with our inner child, our wounded self due to trauma and we return there and the body remembers those places like issues in the tissues.
I decided to look up photos from the abusive past, the mind wanted to and I saw something someone that my mind thought was something to be jealous and why I was not important but my pure soul self had a major discussion about being the fool.
My mind takes my pure self to places I am not happy, and I have discovered that I fought for something I did not appreciate or want in my life. The mind continues to take me to where I told it not to. The mind always wins, and when I go there I beat myself up and hate who I am. But then i return because I am not my mind or my body I am a soul.
Eternal and free. I just need to keep going and be the joy …it takes less time than it did before to return to joy.
Rosie, I can see you have a very powerful mind and you are training it well. I understand the practice it takes to bring the mind back to joy and peace within. Keep up the great work!
It doesn’t take much reflection to realize that the mind ruminates on all of its negativity on a constant replay cycle.
I’m convinced that I need to be ever-attentive to my thoughts thinking that at some point I’ll have figured it out only to be constantly living in unrest.
Self doubt , constant chatter…
Sometimes your mind can get you into a state of doubtfulness and you can´t be sure of anything, it makes you freeze up
I get lost and still worry about things I did five years ago. I punish myself relentlessly and it hurts.
I remember things that happened five years ago and still punish myself for my short comings.
it’s 5:10am and I am here while my family is all peacefully asleep. my mind has a lot to say…ha!
One day, a coworker spoke to me in a condescending way and I reacted abruptly. For the rest of the day, into the night, and the following day, my mind constantly replayed that scene and predicted how it was going to play out in the future. I tried so hard to stay in the present but it was difficult.
My mind can pick me up and make me fly and in other moment dump in a ditch I find it hard to come out from.
I have returned to competitive tennis since retiring from teaching high school in 2016. Have had success but when I was in finals of National senior womens indoors championship and playing well, I suddenly started wondering why the opponent was hitting short balls, my favorite shot. The more I thought about it, the more mistakes I made. She won the first set that I had been winning. Then I told myself second place was ok, rather than fighting back and regaining my advantage. I had that match until I started thinking or second guessing myself.
My mind is wanting to know when I will be able to access session 2…
Always avoiding and shoving the memories deep down, causing myself pain and fatigue
When i don’t do things that i must do. It keeps telling me how irresponsible i am.
Abrasive criticism that causes a perpetual cycle of self sabotage.
Intellectually understanding this and knowing better which then adds to the cycle.
Creates an undoing of a lot of hard work and love poured into things causing a feeling defeat and isolation. Done to self. Like betraying a friend and watching it happen.
I have spent my life getting in my own way. I can’t remember ALL of the times I was offered opportunities to “move forward” in life and chose to run. I can, however, remember enough of them to beat myself up about it. I sit here, after listening to “Why We Suffer” as if I understand what I was so afraid of, am so afraid of. The fact is, I have known my internal dialogue is my enemy, and have not been able to overcome it. You see, I am so smart, I have stood outside of myself and said, “You know you are better than that,” yet continued, time after time, to get right up to the edge, ready to fly and chicken out. I do believe that I am a student ready for the master and am so encouraged by what I have seen here…
The mind/spirit discipline to rise above her to live in inner contentment and be happy!
Negativity breeds more negativity . Positive attracts positive . I choose to stay in positivity. I work at my perspective .
My mind tells me life will come together once x, y and z take place and I can live in peace instead of peacefully living in the moment.
I know intuitively what is right and what I need to let go of but my mind takes over and compulsively keeps telling the same story and makes it difficult to clear my thoughts. It just won’t stop talking.
The mind can be a very powerful tool, but I realized when loose awareness I have negative thoughts and I get more confused about my life in general. I loose sense of my well being
Limiting me in my business; it blocks or stops me from doing the things that are necessary to move my business to the next level. It also stops me from opening myself up so that I can have a much more meaningful relationship with my wife.
I am in constant fear of my mind and what it might say next. I watch it like a hawk and often try to drown it out with distractions. It seems like I spend a lot of energy trying to “control” or “suppress”it.
Fear and panic over my husband’s illness. It is very serious and I struggle daily with fear of having to say goodbye, so much so that I don’t experience the moments I have now…. a waste.
Ever since I saw you with Oprah, I have worked so hard on being a Guard of my mind snd not letting my inner voice affect me .
I have been struggling and feeling quite crippled by an obsessive/addictive “love” for a man, who is not available (and probably nor event right) for me.. It’s been 10 months now, and my mind is still stuck and my life, too.. 🙁
It can repeat a situation multiple times in head and make it seem much worse.
Overthinking, obsessing, leading to panic attacks.
I have issues trusting and feeling disappointed by others, and feeling inadequate about myself. I feel my only worth is being productive and working, I don’t allow myself to enjoy my life to its fullest.
Me too .k
The older I get I find myself worrying about my husbands state of mind:/ I Love my life – feel blessed most of the time but wonder how to best inspire him to find a more peaceful way to be. He being 60 and me not far behind… yes good health good home good jobs… but wanting so much to ease his inner pain – the worry is what will a lifetime of a mostly fear based reactions bring him.
I have positive mind.
I have positive mind
Recently found out my ex slept with someone else a week after we broke up. Found out on my birthday. My mind would literally wake me up in the middle of the night tormenting me with these thoughts. Which created feelings of unworthiness, made me look to my past to see what I could of and should have done better.
We all do that or have done that unfortunately. You are not alone. Be sad that it’s over. When you catch yourself insulting You, recognize those insults as the lies that they are. They’re noise and sadly the place that we go to for the need to blame circumstances on someone and we cruelly always blame ourselves. I don’t know you, but you are worthy and you are good enough. Don’t believe the invading thoughts that make you feel otherwise. They’re just not true.
I’m affected by the incorrect path someone else is taking on their journey to spiritual growth and their manipulation of the teachings to validate it.
Enjoying the content and looking forward to freeing my mind 😉
I became unable to find any peace in my life after the death of a family member. My mind controlled every moment of my day and it was only while I slept that I was I able to escape my minds control. The pain was constant and I knew I was in the grip of my negative thoughts which I wanted to stop but found I could not.
I often feel like I’m living the same day over and over again, like in the film Groundhog Day
Multiple abuses and traumas from age six to 63, have been locked away. I’ve been running my whole life, never putting down roots because my brain tells me I’m not safe. I’m just now starting my journey and am facing the dark past in increments that I can manage.
The death of my son, took me to a very dangerous dark place,, not knowing how to cope, and all the dangerous thoughts my mind went thru
As a writer, my mind told me that before I could write a novel I needed a word processor. (Yes, that’s how long this has been going on. A word processor.) Purchased word processor. Then it told me in order to write I needed a desk for the word processor. Purchased a monster of a desk from an antique store. Then it told me I needed candles and incense burning on my desk while I write to put me in a certain mood. Bought candles and incense. Then it told me I needed music playing while I wrote. Brought in music and ended up singing along while the green cursor blinked endlessly on the white screen. Then it told me fresh flowers would be a nice touch, a couple family photos on the desk. Check and check. Then my mind told me I needed schooling in order to write a novel. Enrolled in college in my 30s, an English Writing major. Aced all my classes. Then my mind told me I needed time in order to write my novel. Lots and lots of time. So I quit my job. Now, when I sit to write, my mind tells me I’m too old. That I missed the boat. That I don’t possess the talent to write a novel and never did.
Thank you Kathy. I’ve loved your mini novel. There is a lot in this fiew lines.
Ah yes, I understand this all too well! Now to just find the time to sit and write! Lol. My life is sooo busy right now! (Im currently unemployed and live on 60 acres) I have very little housework. My mind keeps telling me that I dont have time for writing now. My eyes get tired from looking at the stinking cursor blinking at me. Laughing at me. Taunting. I just don’t know where to start.
I feel for ya!
After a lifetime of sexual abuse and major losses, I have complex PTSD. After being married to an abusive controller for 19 yrs. and losing someone who I truly believed to be my soulmate. I had closed off all access to my heart. Never ever planning on opening those gates again. Well, the thing is, when you stay w an abuser, your kids learn from it. After my son, who is an alcoholic, put his hands around my neck and started choking me. And I went through domestic abuse counseling and in a survive to thrive support group, wich had its first and only male participant. He was quiet, feeling awkward and intimidated, but eventually participated. He was/ is a very sensitive wise and kind man. After the 13 weeks of meetings , a bunch of us, exchanged numbers and info. Well, I’m the months following, he and I hit it off, we became very close. Closer than I ever thought possible. !! Yes, he told me a number of times that he shouldn’t say it, but, that he loved me more than anyone in life now or ever. And yes I knew that I loved him too. We would talk for hours a few times a day. It just so happenened that COVID 19 had hit us hard, here in NJ. He had it and was sick with it for 6 weeks.
However because of abuse that we both suffered we both have complex PTSD, and triggers. My biggest is abandonment and being sure that it will happen. We had a argument that I started over a mixed concept. I thought that even our friendship was over. So, I picked up my insulin to overdose w all that I had. . As I was getting it ready, I realized what I was doing and threw my pen across the room and dialed a suicide hotline. Then got cut off 2 minutes into the phone call. I then called a friend who calmed me down! My friend the man that I love is now afraid to talk so that it doesn’t happen again.
Thanks for sharing this.
Years ago, my very wise husband told me: “You spend 99% of your life in the space between your ears.” This profound statement takes on more significance daily.
If you are unhappy with your life: change your mind!
This is a small mind issue that can get out of hand:If my sons don’t answer their phone I think there is something wrong.
If I am not working or being productive I am not a valuable citizen.
Hi Mickey, I read your book (The Untethered Soul) and I am half way reading (the surrender experiment). Something you said in your video here that amazed me, when you mention that trying to commit to Meditation and Yoga is not the right way as this can give the mind something else to nag about. I’m very excited to watch your second video to find the answer.
As a personal experience of noticing how the mind can be a very dangerous place is when I moved to Australia in Jan 2016. Prior to that, I didn’t even know what the word (anxiety) mean?
I started my career journey in Australia with a company that hired me as a project manager, that job was stressful as I was given 16-18 projects at once. I used to get a pain in my chest from time to time, waking up at night remembering that I forgot to do something in one of my projects. It was impossible to cover them all in my 9 am to 5 pm work. Work was coming back with me home every day and during my sleep but only in my mind. I wasn’t touching my laptop or sending any emails, I was only occupied mentally all day and night.
I go out with friends in the weekend, my mind is telling me all time, what could go wrong, what issues I’ll have to deal with, I am not good enough in the eye of my boss, I should be able to handle 16-18 projects at once … etc.
this made me feel so unhappy with the move to Australia. As you mentioned, I was waiting for something outside of me to change what’s inside of me.
I managed to get another job later, it was one of the happiest days in my life, but those feelings stayed. For any small issue, I got into that anxiety pattern thinking that everything will go wrong. I was trying most of the times to control what I cannot control.
Until I found one day on one of the social media platform a quote about the mind and how powerful our thoughts are.
I took the journey since then and got to know the meanings of the fight and flight response, anxiety, the sound in my head, … etc.
that helped me so much to quiet the sound of my mind but I still get it out of control sometimes in stressful situations but not as bad as I used to.
I am enjoying reading your book (the surrender experiment) and I’m applying the part of not following my likes and dislikes in my life and to surrender to the flows of the universe.
I was also inspired to create a cartoon character that will ( in a fun way) ask few questions of every chapter of your two books. As I noticed many people read the books but they miss most of the beneficial information or they start reading and then stop. But creating something fun like this, this will encourage them to pay more attention to the contents and to continue reading the book to be able to participate in answering the questions our cute cartoon character will be asking. I used to make comics when I was a kid, but living in countries under war in the Middle East for most of my life, took that interest away as we were focused on going on with life and safety.
Thank you Micky for sharing your stories and teachings.
“There’s a problem here,” is my mind’s mantra. Whether the problem is with myself or the outer environment, the political situation, whatever. It finds problems even though I don’t prompt it to. The rascal. Let’s catch that sucker in the act!
My mind goes to the past and negative past experiences with ex partners and tries to put it on my current relationship
I find fault in other people too easily. Over a period of time, I start to see the quirks in people that make their lives difficult. They may be over negative or too hard on themselves etc. The ‘quirks’ themselves don’t annoy me, but the fact that these traits could be easily amended by the person but are not Is annoying. It’s like: ‘just change this and you’ll be better’. And because they don’t, I get angry.
I kind of destroyed each and every romantic relationship and relationship potential as a result of all the rubbish self-talk in my mind which always kept saying I am not lovable, enough or desirable. I refused to deny anything that tried to prove otherwise.
At 24 I decided I had no future.
Life was all pain and that the rational thing was to suicide if the pain got too great.
It did and I did.
Somehow I survived.
I realized that the very thought of suicide was extremely negative and harmful to the mind. So I resolved not to think of that or hold it as an option again.
I have always had an over active mind. When I was little I remember crying at night and being so upset worrying what if our house burned down, what if my mom and dad died? Then, as I got older it became about what I looked liked. I have always focused on what I didn’t like about myself. Still struggling with that today.
Over many years i have loved my mind but i have also had a hard relationship with my mind…the danger is how powerful it is when letting i negativity. I have had to use my heart many times to over rule my mind .
I accept as true my thoughts.
My mind can be dangerous in the ways described – the spiritual ego description sounds about right – being down on myself for not being disciplined enough, not deep enough – I judge myself and others for the gap between who we say we are, think we are, or strive to be – and the actual reality of how we behave towards ourselves and others.
Been self-employed for 30 years now, and from the beginning there´s always the question “Will there be jobs for me?” – of course it got a lot better with the routine, but sometimes it comes thru again, eg in times of crisis like now. I just let it go then, trusting that everything will be ok, just as it was in the last xy years. This came naturally, otherwise I´d have gone crazy by now.
Thinking I’m not good enough for alot of my life’s situations when in reality I AM!
Ruminating about things I did that I can’t change. Causes anxiety and depression
Sometimes my mind will say someone doesn’t like me and inside I will struggle with that and believe I’m not a good person because of what another may or may not think of me. I have been able to stand away from those thoughts and not feed it or care and look to my heart to keep me on course.
Somethings my mind comes up with are so critical and unkind of others, I tell it to be quiet and that those are not My thoughts.
I understand you. I am battling with the critical part too. I have a healthy life style and it hurt me See the one I love living the opposite way. I can’t avoid being critical and thinking where he will end if he keep living that way. I need to be conscious when that happen and take away the critical part that even makes me angry and be compassion that fills me with love.
It is programmed to retrieve associative memories and add lament
Larry, I used to do that. Always remember all the pain people I love did to me. And it was a constantly battle inside my head and when I encounter that person (mom), I was already stage for battle. But one day I came across a bible verse that is say “Don’t be afraid of them because the LORD your God is the one who will be fighting for you.”
Deuteronomy 3:22 CEB
I stop seeing her like my enemy. I let go and told God “I give to you, is not my battle is yours” things change. Today, I don’t think in all the bad memories and pain my mom cause me, I focus in her qualities, in all the times she show her love in her way. I put in here shoes. And start seeing her as God child.
I think I’m a positive person, but there is quit often a cloud in my head
I worry constantly about what other people think of me and think negative thoughts about myself.
You are beautiful made Lorie. There is no one in history like you. You are unique and perfectly made by the creator of this universe.
My mind can be triggered by the words of one person that can almost instantly cause a setback. I know this is such a waste and is only harmful to me.
negative thoughs attract negative things.
A dangerous place for me was being unemployed with two teenagers and going through a divorce. Grace for the hour is all you have left
At times my mind can bring up things that I have said or done that, I feel, were not skillful and that may have caused pain or suffering to the one I was speaking to.
I learned that not living in the present, not enjoying the now, but thinking in future and all the stuff can go wrong. I used to put in my head loosing people that I love. Living in the past; constantly remembering all the pain, as a result that was making me bitter. I am a Christian and believe in God and when I understood that is not my battle it is God, I let go. When I stop pleasing people but only thinking that the only one I need to please is God and He love me unconditionally with all my imperfections; is when I felt inner peace and honestly I don’t care what people think of me. When I stop filling my mind with negativity, and start filling it with hope and love is when I started felling truly happy. When I accepted that one day my soul is gonna leave this body and leave behind earth, is when I choose to give the best on me every day.
I was very angry and disappointed when I found out that my girlfriend lied to me. She told me she was going to the hospital And to spend the night Inside the hospital with her to support her emotionally because her mother was practically in her death bed. I found that she made this story up and actually got dressed up to go out the entire weekend. So it made me Feel very Insecure and jealous because in my mind I felt that she went out with a male and probably did the deed. And what was very strange to me is that she really or actually I don’t know any of her friend personally and I’ve. Been with her for two full years by this time. So you can imagine my mind was role playing the worst possible idea of her cheating
At night i must tell my self im beautiful im excited . Love love love . Happy fanatics things will happen tomarrow and boom it works
Unprocessed emotional traumas and energies that have made me a very anxious person
I often feel taken over by my thoughts – predicting what will happen throughout my day before it does, often through a negative lens. I’m aware of the harmful pattern yet cannot find a way to stop its incessant noise.
my internal voice loves criticism. Of others but mostly towards myself.
I start worrying about a conversation I had. Thinking I said the wrong thing. That the other person thinks I am a bad person and then it just goes around and around in my mind and I start talking to my family about it and they either tell me it’s not true or they buy into it too. Then it start to grow. All from one conversation.
My mind gets busy constantly comparing me to others and judging me as “not good enough”. Not a very positive outlook.
My mind is telling me that I am not smart enough.
I fell and injured my nose. It swelled up to a point where I couldn’t breathe through it. Took six weeks and it’s now healed. In the meantime, my subconscious has written a program to not let me fall asleep for fear of suffocating. Feeling as bad as I’ve ever felt.
I struggle with shame over my past Things that have hapoened to me i cant move past . My mind is like a broken record playing the same thing over and over and always negative stuff
P flashbacks of cringeworthy things I have done or said
My only child, my son died in 2018. As much as I know I was a good mother, my mind keeps going over every minute of his life and what I should have, could have done differently. My son died in an accident, it is not something I could have changed but my mind blames me for everything!
My parents divorce.
When my parents divorce we went to live in another town. I did feel different, lonely and less important than my parent’s problems, my grandmother died around the same time and I felt that all my family love and examples disappear.
Depression and feeling than if I was not in this world it won’t be much difference but also thinking than if dead didn’t come naturally I was suppose to be here for a reason.
“Not – ______ – enoughness” in many forms…
I keep rehashing bad choices and experiences in the past.
Dark thoughts about existence and how I suck sometimes and can’t get myself to be surrounded by people I love or sometimes that I’ll amount to nothing in life. Constantly in my head to the point that I can’t live my life.
Getting off mentalhealth meds. I found im very angry over things i would maybe be annoyed with in the past.
My mind somehow persuades me that I am not creative, no talent, I am wasting time, not being productive…the loop of self doubt (not good enough) cycle. I tried to meditate to shut off the noise but can’t do it… I feel suffer with this voice in my head.
Thinking about past events that bothered me over and over…
My kind doesn’t stop talking, comparing,….
Spontaneous negative thoughts, especially directed towards others, feel very dangerous even if apparently mild — it is like junk food for my soul
My mind is always telling me that i am not good enough and also my mind is telling me that i am felling rejected all the time …
I mistake other’s actions and behaviors to be about me and dictate my self worth.
I suffer from relationship anxiety, also known as ROCD, where I obsessively think about my relationship I am in all the time and my brain is constantly scanning my partner for reasons why I should leave them. It’s living hell sometimes as I am with the most beautiful man with no red flags, the voice in my head rarely stops, when it does have relief all I feel is love but then my mind will start again; this obviously comes with very deep, strong emotions connected to these thoughts. I am on a healing journey with it all at the moment. It is so exhausting though but I am determined to be free from it so I can be free and sit in a place of love rather than fear 💕
I’m someone who usually feels pretty comfortable in her skin. However,, when I’m in the company of certain people, especially people who are super cerebral, feelings of insecurity surface. Would like to figure out what that’s all about.
Negative self talk
I have undiagnosed chronic pain and I worry I will never get to the root of my pain. I worry about my financial future, that I will never be able to work again, that I will never find romantic love again. What would I have to offer anyone? I feel like a failure as a mother because I can’t do things with my son that most parents take for granted. I’m very depressed and anxious much of the time.
I was waiting in an assigned unemployment line. Across from my line was a line that was moving a lot faster than my line. I was in a hurry. I decided to get in the other line. My mind begin telling me negative things about what was going to happen to me. They were going to send me to the back of the line; I would be the last one waited on, etc. I started telling myself I was a good person, people were kind to me, I was kind and supportive of others. I made it a point to not listen to what I didn’t want to hear or think about. At the top of the line, the woman asked me what was I doing in this line. But she decided to wait on me anyhow. She was kind and supportive of me.
Telkens maar bezig zijn met vergelijken met anderen in plaats van goed luisteren naar mezelf en daar op weten te vertrouwen.
My mind had be believe that in order for me to regain my physical health all I could eat was apple juice and fast.
For most of my life my mind has been feeding me false stories about not being good enough. This despite feedback from teachers, coaches, friends and others. Tara Brach refers to this as the ‘trance of unworthiness’. Through Buddhist teachings and mindfulness practices that fatalistic story telling machine is not having as much control. One moment, one day at a time.
I tell myself stories about how a person has hurt me. I keep repeating those stories and feeling the pain each time the person does or says something that triggers me.
I loved your analogies about the mind is the biggest bully and is like a car with no driver!
I was at the most important exam of medical school, and there was a moment where I couldn’t think of any disease related to the clinical case I was reading, and then I started call myself “stupid”, “you don’t know nothing all”, “5 months alone doing nothing but study and you can’t remember one disease like this one in the clinical case”. Now I decided to repeat the exame in the 5 months, and I am really scary of my mind, because I know that is the most important thing that I have to change in order to succeed in this exam.
Now I’m 70yrs old it’s down hill from now on
it does not allow me to accept myself as I am both physically and mentally and to avoid that pain I can only search for a place to hide in my mind
Shame and dysfunction have fueled an “I’m not worthy” mentality that has hindered my ability to take initiative. It’s a constant in my head.
The better I want to be and the faster I want to get there: more peaceful, more knowledge, more loving, the more I set myself up to disappointment and self criticism and criticizing others.
Simply put, I noticed and wondered quite a long time ago , does my mind use me or do I use it
Rejection and perceived loss of control.
I have a problem with drinking and am in recovery, my mind can tell me it will be different this time but it never is, dealing with a disease that tells me I do not have a disease
I hear you. Every one of my current problems are ‘endless’ and ‘will never change’. If I try, I can think of some problems I did overcome or change – and that’s my proof that my mind voice is a liar – because it said the same thing about those problems back then too.
I feel hopeless about conditions in the world, and have lost the excitement I once had about life.
I feel lost since my wife passed three and a half years ago. Life does not feel worthwhile and I am constantly fighting with my mind to justify staying here. I only wish to be with my wife and my mind constantly teases, torments and judges me on what I could have done to save her, why I am worthless again without her, and blocking my path to spiritual growth and being at peace inside so I can connect again with the love I share with my wife.
Andrew, I understand the torment of losing a loved one. I have lost two husbands but I’ve come to realize that they are still here around me just not in physical form. I often ask Ron for advice and he shows me answers to my questions in books that I read or messages a friend might email me. Our loved ones can contact us if only we believe.
I get caught up with a single mistake I make at work that i allow it to impact my whole day and I feel as if I’m judged by others on and feel that if I’m not always at the top of my game I will be judged by my coworkers. Which is how they also feel.
When started to know about spirituality I started to use my mind to think about whose teaching is better, what tool is more powerful instead of believing my feelings(my own guidance.)
I sometimes can get so bogged down with reflecting on the past to ensure I remember life’s lessons.
Thank you for your welcoming video. I became aware of the mind at the age of 6 when I experienced a booming resonating voice from inside my core which both terrified and fascinated me at the same time but which instantly brought me to a state of being awake that both myself and the world around me was unprepared for.
Without spiritual guidance as a child my mind Left unchecked became a monster of manifesting things to prove the anxiety of spiritual separation and my childhood was challenging to say the least. At the age of 14 I understood that my dark thoughts were literally reeking havoc in my life as I had developed the eating disorder bulimia at the age of 10, an illness that was the reaction to trying to maintain control of my emotional state.
Sadly at this stage I was merely the passenger on a rollercoaster of emotional turmoil that ultimately lead to a serious car accident the day before my 21st birthday. The rollercoaster was a mind that was overloaded by the self perpetuating evidence of my own self loathing. The accident changed everything. I have no memory of that day as I had a serious head injury and as the brain surgeon told my dear Mum nothing from that day would be the same again.
That accident was 27 years ago and every step since has been incremental in allowing me to access an understanding of the principle of surrender. Your work is crucial at this time for so many who need the instruction manual for the rollercoaster as I’m certain it will help so many navigate the monsters and survive the ride to thrive in these uncertain times. Blessings and love. LJ
For most of my life, my mind told me I should hold back from comments as I did not know enough. I struggle now with thinking I can and will make positive changes to my life and that I am smart enough to do something. So much self doubt. I have more positive than negative the past eight years or so. Having gone through breast cancer treatments made me know I can get through anything I want to. But then there are those days….the dangersous mind is in control…
It has made me feel not allowed for most of my life.
My mind is obsessed with success & impact. It is my harshest critic.
I always think negatively about myself to the point where I can make myself so frightened and scared of my future and what will become of me. I do have moments of relief but I always find myself back in that insecure place.
My mind is tricky , it distracts me and then tells me how are you ever going to be successful , you can’t commit , you just aren’t good enough ..
Anxiety, negative thoughts and ruminating have all caused me distress at different times. i am looking forward to quietening the chatter and feeling the positive flow
My thoughts are so negative sometimes and it frightens me. It makes me feel insecure when I can’t get a grip on my emotions.
Over thinking is dangerous for me. I’m letting things be as they are and I’m working towards how I react to certain situations.
My mind tells me that I am carrying too much weight – and that my body is unattractive, and I should be ashamed of myself. Even though I have a gorgeous, loving husband who adores me – my mind doesn’t allow me to believe I’m good enough. I’m sick of it – and ready to change!!!!
I find I often want to avoid people and be on my own. Relationships can create anxiety (like what people thinking about me) which in turn creates negative energy.
During the recent sale of a home and most of its contents during the state’s Ordered shut down due to Covid 19, my mind was continually in fear, awfulizing and anxious over not being able to get this done In time to close, making wrong decisions as to what to let go of, and the Fear of inevitable financial loss. Could not stop these thoughts. And was literally feeling worried sick.
I am the one who is aware and I’m aware that I’ve been collecting too many rocks in my river. Many days, it feels like I built a dam and there is no flow anymore…Mickey, I can’t thank you enough..I’ve been working spiritually for a number of years now trying to reconnect with my own seat of consciousness. Your materials touched me very deeply–I was ready to hear it.. Wading boots on: River dredging has begun. There’s a trickle in the creek again and I’m preparing for overflowing banks. Namaste. :)<3
My mind became dangerous when I felt a staff member of mine was undermining me to the rest of the team. I couldn’t stop focusing on every little thing she did or said for several weeks
This is my take on this.
I just turned 46. 1st of june. Italian.
My life is one a kind and is never been easy to stay in this planet.
Incredibile pain since I was 10. At 17 my father killed himself. And we lost every thing.
Moved to London were I graduate, than to california, Thiland end than back to Italy convinced that was there I could solve all my problems. There is no place to go you your inner world is not right. I have my true on this
As you said for nearly 27 years I’ve been pushing things down, tried every kind of stuff to escape the pain side. I’ve nearly ruind all my life. Lost 2 homes, closed my business, nearly lost my family, certenly the love of my wife to have put her in such of hard times.
For 2 years I’ve been mobilesed by my mind, you not good enoght, you are a feilure, such a whist of life and so on. I spent 6 months in bed…. with 2 kids on my sholder.
But I could not do any thing my energy was thaken by the chit chat going on and on and on in my mind. I than started to listen to every video I could find in self help and bit by bit i started to disolve this incredibile net I self created with my mind.
And here I am. Looking for tools and a real way to get out of this dangerous mind trap.
Sometimes I actually think that if I only could quit work and lie in bed for 6 months, I could sort it all out and find the secret to happy. Your story reminded me – thank you – that we have to show up for the solution process too, bit by bit. Trial and error, but forward progress. Good for you for looking for the path!
Thinking of my ex husband and how I didn’t get the marriage I wanted and 25 years of trying I gave up and left. He immediately got a girlfriend and I think she is getting the relationship I wanted but never got.
I often notice how my mind keeps me from doing what my heart wants me to do by keeping me small and unworthy of being happy and having an easier life. It tells me if I don’t have to struggle, work hard and suffer a bit, then my goal is not worthwhile.
Addiction is where my mind is a dangerous place. I have begun with pure intention 1000 times and somehow let my mind control it all in the end
I have been a 57-yr old divorcee for 8 yrs. I had a beautiful family, marriage, life where I gave and gave and then once I helped my husband become successful, I was tossed aside. I wasted 23 years of my life with him and now 8 more years in dark depression…I just can’t dig out and sometimes want to end it all. My 12 yr old son is the only reason I’m still here and now I don’t know how I’ll ever survive his teen years. I’m just not good enough for him or anyone. My mind tells me I’m now Worthless…
How you doing lately? Life is not about giving and giving … its about balance, and how being happy is as important as making someone else happy. Make yourself happy, it is a good lesson for the children to see that others need time and space too.. You are important!
I wake up with anxiety or obsession abouts tasks that need to get done and thoughts giving me permission to isolate , that I’m deserving.
Stress & anxiety
I can always do more, be more, experience more.
Talking myself out of things I desire. Convince myself I am not worthy of being loved.
Depression and anxiety over a sudden and unexpected romantic break up
A lot of times it falls back into the same conditioned loops from the past: “You don’t look good”; “You don’t work hard enough”; “You should be doing this in order to feel good”. But understanding that this is the way the mind thinks it can make me feel good inside really inspired me and made me understand why it’s saying these things! Thank you a lot! 🙂
I call it going down the rabbit hole. I worry about what may happen and what if I do the wrong thing and somehow make things worse to the point of depression. And usually what I was obsessing over never happens, I just made my self depressed over nothing.
My suffering is when I am lonely I call friends and family to fill the void.
At times I mis read my children behavior towards me
I lead a reasonably successful life but I was relieved from the job, recently! And now, feel not very good about myself & generally very pessimistic, confused, scared and this has more to do because of Coronavirus pandemic lockdown!!!
First, by listening to which mind has made up one gets excited about something and starts to do things. But the real drill is when the same mind which got one excited starts to inject self-doubt thus throwing one into bewilderment. How is it not dangerous to listen and act to what my mind says?!
Sadness over the loss of love…feeling of being thrown away with blatant disregard..
If I’m going into a meeting my mind will go into all the negative things about it instead of all the positive things I get insecure instead of confident I can feel my defense mechanism turn on
Why did my daughter die suddenly?
Not believing my strength that I am demonstrating every day
Thinking my thoughts define me
Depressionr I caused in myself when I expected our grown children to be who I thought they were going to be until I realized they are who they are.
My mind thinks constantly that I am not a good person.
Have been noticing that our mind can take us to places not so good for some time. Grew up in an alcoholic home, know I must provide my own stop gaps. These are hard times…….
My mind is very creative in making up stories about the future, to a point where I create choas for myself and fear of ‘what might happen’ instead of allowing the flow of what is in front of me.
If you’re an artist could your not just paint it away Donna
We are hardest on ourselves shoulding ourselves and shaming ourselves in ways we would never tolerate from someone else.
I was very sad when my girlfriend started to draw away from me to be with another friend so I tried to ignore it and pretended not to care.
Guilt for mistakes in the past especially in regard to my children. No matter what I do to try to make up for it, whatever I do is never enough to my mind.
We are twins in guilt.
Suffer panic attacks when speaking publicly
During depression or loneliness, is the most dangerous time to be in my head. Like a bad neighborhood, best to get out!!
My fiance was killed in October. In the midst of this profound grief, I was confronted with truths that led to the knowledge that the man I knew and loved never existed. My mind continues to ruminate the loss and the betrayal.
My mind tells me I don’t have anything important to say.
Thinking of solutions to stop the pain of grief after my husband died suddenly.
In a negative circumstance i I was thinking it was bad got me sad and then i got thinking well is it really catastrophic and no and so my mmod changed instantly depending on how I was looking at the situation
I’m never good enough for my mind…
When I realized I have been thinking about my actions in the past that I can not change.
For the past 27 years I thought I was working towards breaking away from negativity and destruction of family dynamics and lack of direction. Then an unexpected event took place and a domino of fear and failures came up causing my mind to question who I am and how do I fix this?
I am bipolar and had a grueling 30+ years suffer from sever depression and extreme mania. It caused regretful choices and decision making while growing up. Low self esteem, poor self image and extreme lack of confidence made me insecure and paranoid. I am in a better place now, continuing to heal, learn and cleanse my soul.
When I experience thoughts like my son should do this or that,I argue with him and hit him.When I realized it, the urgent to hurt someone disappear . Thank you.
I became my own worst enemy, worst critic, and no one could save me but me. I have evolved past that after near self destruction.
Thoughts that trigger my addiction.
My mind is good, I just need to redirect sometimes.
My mind tells me I have work to take care of. But it’s my day off and I want to have fun and relax.
Great video. Thank you!
Answer; Dwelling on hurtful events in the past…trying to make them go away…Being upset when not finding a way to erase them in my mind. Dangerous circle…
My mind constantly tells me my partner must be with someone else when he is not with me.. I surely can’t be loved as my parents didn’t seem to bother.. etc.. I watch myself talking rubbish in my head, I see myself doing it but I can’t seem to stop it. The words over power me and even when I’m trying to relax and and let go.. the little buggers just creep back!
The thoughts never shut up. Can’t be in the present moment.
Yesterday my neighbor became angry with me. It is his perception that I treat him badly. Since then I have been talking to him in my mind constantly and when I went to sleep last night I had nightmares. I keep trying to think of what I need to say to him and having these imaginary conversations. I turn off the thoughts and I’m suffering.
I grew up with an alcoholic mom. With 2 younger sisters
And brothers. Anger, Saddness and Rage plus amazing happiness and confusion
As soon as I wake up it starts, the you should do this, you should do that, you have to do something important, etc. get more done, get to it. It’s like a mean boss that never sees what has been done or in the process of. It’s exhausting
That the mind will try to convince you that you are not good enough to succeed in something you would like to do that requires risk and perseverance.
My mind often tells me that people don’t like me. Looking at it now, I recognize how this one thought paralyzes me when it comes to sharing my good ideas or speaking up. It prevents me from being myself in social situations and causes me anxiety daily. It has led me to accept being treated poorly at work, and in friend and love relationships.
I am constantly racing with time to complete tasks, constantly anticipating what could go wrong and course correct. I am successful but missed to enjoy the process and those who journey with me. I need to train my mind to enjoy the ride and know that I can get to the destination even more successfully.
Thank you. This was a beautiful reminder of the essence that I seek for. I get to be in my gifted mind through dance. Feeling Blessed🥰
Lost in a bad place
I find myself living in the future a lot, planning and controlling how things should be so that I can be happy.
Guilt and blame
My mind set on a course of self destruction early. At the age of 9 I began to starve myself, until I was hospitalized for anorexia. I was “cured” of that behavior which of course morphed into other addiction. I’m currently struggling with feeling “useless” in this lifetime & constantly seeking people, places & things to blame or hang on to “fix” me
Years ago I decided that my mouth was getting me in trouble so I shut it down. Then it really started getting me in trouble and I quit being able to help others and being able to remember things I needed to.
Constantly being beaten up by thoughts of regret, remorse, worry, insecurity
I am 69 years old, two years ago had a boyfriend who was 16 years younger, he was serious about the relationship and wanted us to legalize the bond. My mind told me that it was impossible and I got scared. We finally broke up. I became very sad.
Low self worth. Procrastinating.
Fear stunting my growth in most areas of my life
I look ugly and am old.
Meditation, yoga and slowly dropping bad habits, (drugs, alcohol, junk food,) all started when I made the decision to simplify my life. I feel that we know the choices deep down that we need to make in order to surrender. It’s not easy. I’ve tried it in many different ways (trial and error) after a bad breakup, being displaced and going through a midlife crisis, every day was a struggle to get through as my focus was always on my past and the pain. (Worry about the future) As the pain (over time) subsided and I learned to move on in some ways, I noticed how locked my mind was in the past and future. For instance; All of the teachings of Eckhart Tolle (Power of Now) are quite advanced for someone who’s just trying to quit smoking. An addiction like drugs and alcohol are just symptoms of bigger problems and how to address these issues seems problematic. If your mind has taken you far away from your center, it’s created habits, walls and roads that keep you from getting back on track.
Michael Singer has done such a great job in condensing this (teachings of other masters) all down for the regular folks who are learning about mediation and yoga. Now, only mornings are problematic for me as I reach for my phone 📲 first thing (social media) and all the thoughts of past and worries about the future rush in. It’s a process. Have patience with yourself and the more you drop the judgement of anything or anyone you’ll move much faster through this. Judgement has nothing to do with the current moment.
Our minds can be a dangerous place, totally agreed. In my experience, my inner critic sometimes is too loud and often ruins my day. Also, my mind gets dangerous when someonelse hurts my loved ones or his/her behavour affects my live and can’t do anything about it.
I’m so happy I found you, Michael. I love your work.
greetings from Spain.
send you peace and love
Yes, that literally happened to me yesterday when someone I barely know blames me for many things. Then she went “silent” and would not respond. It left me filled with sadness and shame, even when I had not done what she said.
I ruminate about unpleasant situations and struggle to rise above it.ll
My mind can be a dangerous place when it has grief remembrances that literally keep me stuck in pain, even though I deeply desire to move forward.
My mother passed away in April during this pandemic. I feel alone but still connected to many loving friends.
My mind has stopped me from doing many things that would have made my dreams come true by now.
Childhood trauma, extreme life stressors and now living with fibromyalgia, Myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome (ME/CFS) a disabling and complex illness that causes major depression and all started at the age of 43. It has changed me as a person who feels broken and cruel minded or more like moody and irritable. I hate who I have become.
During Post Partum.
I have a general feeling of inadequacy. It puts a strain on my relationships and prevents true joy in my life. I mean how can I live a conscious life when I’m always judging myself.
My mind can become stuck on what’s happening next, rather than appreciating what’s happening now.
My mind is dangerous when it convinces me that negative thoughts or circumstances will never change. When it gets defensive, compares, when it worries about the future, when it tells me self realization is for others and not myself, ..the list is endless 😆
My mind tells me that my anger is part of who I am.
a divorse after 30 years left me feeling old, used, and abandoned. I turned to working alot and alcohol to numb the pain. Several years of counseling and now a new love and I still occasionally fall back into the “whys and what ifs”.
I spend far to much time living in fear. What if etc…. it mostly involves worry about my kids.
Waking up from a bad dream and carrying the emotions of it with me all day
Good Morning Beautiful Souls and Fellow Warriors!
Thank you so much Micheal for these sessions I’m
About to embark on, I am very grateful for the work you’ve done on yourself, that you now get to share with us!
I feel finally after years of living in terrible mental pain I’m ready to surrender, and choose a life of peace over constant painful and agonizing struggle.
You are VERY correct, the mind can be a very dangerous place indeed. This is so sad to write but I’m not sure I’ve ever had any peace, even as a child.
I was molested as a young girl, by a family member that I not only hid, but only surfaced memory wise until a year ago and I’m 44. that started this path of addiction from that very young age. They I’ve never understood until my mind decided it was time to release, I have the most beautiful kind generous parents, that unfortunately had struggles of own, so in order to try and bring me some happiness (with of course not knowing the REAL issue). Just showered me with toys and gifts and honestly pretty much whatever I wished within their financial limits to hopefully bring some joy to my life. High school hit I then discovered drugs, liquor, sex, speed, shopping, food It seemed it was the only time, when I was dabbling in these escapes that I felt like I was truly happy & alive, But as we all know over the years it just made myself sicker and sicker. Many failed relationships, financially destructive path, the loneliness and emptiness, had myself hospitalized. Not able to stay at any place of work for any length of time, till about 8 years ago had a nervous breakdown and pretty much locked myself away and disengaged from the world, thinking that’s the ONLY way to keep myself safe from being hurt any further.
The loneliness can be crippling at times!
So this all brings us to here in this moment. I have the most Amazing Women who is my Soul Sister, that is has discovered your gift to us and recommended your books which I’m about to start reading and then sent myself this link!
Micheal for the first time since honestly I can remember I’m excited! And it’s not because of the outside world for once, I’m excited for my inner world to start being created and constructed in the beauty I’ve Always only dreamed it could be!!
So thank you once again for this beautiful gift of a new path to walk! Can’t wait to see where it takes me 🙏
My brother used to wisely say “an idle mind is the devils playground”. So true for me – when I have too much time to think, my negative loops can sort of take over. I can waste so much time catastrophizing on things that will likely never happen, give too much power to the past and negative self-talk. It’s a constant, at times, exhausting battle I think many of us navigate daily – so much time wasted. Looking forward to new tools/techniques to help manage the negative ego.
The constant chatter of judgement. Basing my worth on what I do instead of who I am.
To be of value you must conform to what society values.
I had worked very hard, had a successful career, and got to a point where I was OK with the world . . . I thought I was at peace. I found out 9 months ago that my wife cheated on me for 18 months, and it has launched my mind into overdrive. I can’t stop beating myself up, and questioning everything that I knew to be true.
Fear-based thoughts that make you think the worst is going to happen= worry Not good/smart/fun/thin/….enough
When my mind isn’t occupied, the memories of my abusive past come back
At night when the mind wants to go dark and think about the past.
My mind will not let me rest. I am growing older now and I feel, life feels heavy. NO MATTER WHAT I DO . IT DOESN’T STOP CHATTERRING ABOUT HOW I LOOK, WHO IS SAYING WHAT ABOUT ME. I AM SICK AD TIRED OF BEING BULLIED BY MY OWN MIND AND I WANT IT TO STOP.
I am tired os my mnd constanatly telling me about how old I look even when I THINK I LOOK PRETTY GOOD, ANALYZING EVERY DAMN THING INTHEUNIVERSE AND HAVING NO MORE DREAMS. ISEDD TO HAVE MANY. NOW, II HAVE DUTIES AND NOT MANY OF THOSE. I DID A GOOD JOB CREATING A SPACE WHERE NOTHING IS EXPECTED OF ME BUT TELL THA TO MY MIND.
I have a trust issue first husband and now 2 nd husband it comes from my dad
Old filters from the past cloud present and future decisions and choices
Continuous cycle of thought related to not agreeing with what is seen in the world. My lenses were only seeing hurt, depression, manipulation and everyone was turning their head or a part of the ugliness in the world.
I only saw ugly and bad; I was right and others were wrong. Yet I was the crazy one because I wasn’t like the others. I was asleep and seeing my world through my lenses. I had and continue to change my perception, find positive focus, recognizing my radar detector if someone gets to me. I have to consider what within myself has been triggered.
I just wanted to add-staying in the present is sometimes all I can do and read positive things for positive thoughts. Seek what I feel is better, yet I keep coming back to the same place if trying to get too far ahead and begin to worry. I keep repeating this cycle-way better focus but not seeing a change in my relationships.
I was always considered pretty lately all I find are the negatives in my physical body
I already told you
I worry that my son’s addiction will make him commit suicide.
Ignorance may be bliss, however you will never receive the gifts that otherwise would be bestowed on you!
For the last two days I have been digging deep inside myself to figure out how I am allowing my 10 year old granddaughter to tigger me. Causing my ptsd sypthoms to resurface. I have been spending time alone in nature and asking my higherself for guidance. And today I was surfing the internet and came across a video with you and Tony Robbins, I thought to myself I known that name, and when I heard the title of your book recalled what a huge impact Untethered Soul had on my life. While I was spending time alone yesteday I asked for help from my higher power. The bible states ask and you shall receive. I believe you are the answer to my prayer. Thank you, Micheal for all that you do. By the way my daughter had your book and suggested I read it.
Allowing the mind to believe a few people’s opinions about me and the way I look, which were not positive and damaged me.
My mind often wants to ‘be right’ usually at the cost of personal spiritual fulfilment.
How I have perceived my own inadequacies and regrets are affecting my expectations on my kids for desiring them to do and be better.
My mind can be dangerous currently, because my heart and trust in my spouse has been broken, by an emotional affair my spouse has been having.
I was so stressed I ejaculated semen in my dreams And it wasn’t a sexial dream.
I constantly rethink how I’ve done things in the past and then fret over how I should have done them and how I can change this today (obviously not going to happen).
The intense and ruthless rumination of judgements of others– and myself. Big sigh. It’s exhausting.
My mind tells me it i s not safe outside.
Self judgment and condemnation – I am not good enough
I think, Fear of failure or loosing of self worth directly or indirectly causing all the problems.
I have read and studied your book and practiced what I learned, so sometimes I live in great awareness. But as soon as some old pain (fear) is triggered, I forget EVERYTHING I have learned and revert back to my mind. Sometimes I am not aware of my consciousness for days!!!! When I reconnect with my consciousness, it is like being with an old friend.
It started as a thought and became a belief that I wasn’t good enough. When my partner cheated on me, I took it as confirmation that my thoughts were true.
Yep. Very dangerous
As a recovering alcoholic, my mind always tends to go to the past and all the trouble I caused.
Sometimes the conditioned mind has lightning quick reflexes it is quick to get offended
As soon as I make a mistake, any mistake, i bully myself, call myself an idiot or stupid and how could I do it, why haven’t I learnt from the last time….and it just goes on and on.
When I was born my family always made us feel like we were always enough just because we were born….It was a great childhood then then when I started dating I had someone cheat on me and that was tuff……. I married Someone else a few years later and I’m sure he’s done the same ….. we’ve been married 28 yrs ……and have a wonderful child that’s disabled……. but because of the way my husband treats me I never feel like I’m enough …… I see other people navigate things like this from a sting place and I want to also…… I hoe that’s not to much to say ……
I want to be carefree enough to float. Not weighed down so I sink.
I’ve had millions of these. Here’s my most recent example. Yesterday my car started overheating, I am mediately dove into fear of not having a car, fear of not having enough money, old fears coming up from the new fear
My mind is my defense mechanism. My inner discourse keeps me from experiencing life fully.
For years I lived in a place where what I heard about who I was from other people, was who I was. All of the negative things said to me became my reality. I didn’t like myself at all and all sorts of awful things were going to happen to me because that’s what I deserved. Indeed our minds can be our worst enemy .
I am constantly living in the past. I have to learn how to let that go and be happy in the present.
The death/suicide of my Father when I was 20. 13 years later death of my Mother in an auto accident. Two failed marriages.
My second husband remarries a very controlling woman who completely alters the relationship between my children and I .
Also sexual abuse issues at a very young age with my Grandfather.
Learning to not trust men!
I have everything going for me right now — Wonderful family, friendship, a good job, yet my mind is sabotaging everything. I’m depressed, anxious and always worried — and my past is killing me slowly. I’m trapped…
My mi d always bring me to bad pass experience I fill like been in clouds and fog.
I have spent a lifetime with my own fear holding me captive from becoming me out of the worry of failure. Yes, I’ve taken some really big risks, but not consistently. And this led to an unfulfilling marriage, career and a life alone since my family has died. All because I’ve held myself captive. No one else. Me in an invisible cell. It’s time I made a jail break!
when i got divorced a few years ago my mind was telling me that there was no reason for me to be here anymore – my marriage was over, my kids moved out, and i didn’t have a purpose an identity, safety, security or a reason to live anymore. It tried to convince me that I would be better off dead and that my kids would be better off if I was dead as well because then i could give them the money i had from the divorce and they would be much better off with the money than with me in their lives. thank God i didn’t listen to that <3
Feeling limited by my own fears. Anxiety mixed with autoimmune issues. Going thorough a diagnosis of Lupus at the moment. So it’s either living in fear or LIVING A BEAUTIFUL LIFE. It is obvious what I choose since I am here. 🙂
Sometimes I feel like I have a hand on my throat when I am in a group because my mind is afraid of criticism. It tells me that if I talk or share my thoughts I’ll say something stupid, that I am stupid or I’ll express it stupidly – or that the other people don’t like me or whatever – to the degree that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I’ll open my mouth to say something and I lose my train of thought.. I know it’s B.S. because I don’t have near as much difficulty when I’m one on one with other individuals. I’m realizing my mind keeps me from realizing my full potential.
I constantly feel lonely and “left out”. I want to get away from self pity and live! I’m reading Untethered Soul. Thank you for making this mini session
I’ve lived from a place of insecurity my whole life. Moments of comfort and joy, but I couldn’t keep them because I was so misaligned and had a war inside my mind. All the darkest feelings and beliefs. Disordered behavior.
Thankyou! My mind becomes clouded, confused. I turn all inside out, upside down and it exhausts me completely!
My mind tells me my 19 year old son is in danger when he camps or hikes or takes his outdoor adventures with his friends. I worry about him whenever he is doing these adventures because they are unfamiliar to me. I can’t stop the worry.
I am an older female in my 40s . I have not been able to hold down a job for more than 2 years at a time. I still don’t know what I want to do when I grow up. MY mind is telling me constantly that I’m a failure, that I’ll never amount to anything. I’ll never be good enough. My relationship is wonderful except when it comes to my financial situation and lack of monetary contribution. The arguments turn ugly, affirming what my brain has repeatedly told me. I have dreams that I want to bring to reality, but can’t get out of my own way.
Anxiety, depression, addiction, and panic…
Believing I have to follow through with what my mind is saying and the feelings associated with it at any given time.
That to me is dangerous.
For the first time after reading a few chapters of Untethered Soul, I am coming into a realization that my mind is not my intellect nor my friend and that I now have permission to disobey it 😉.
Looking forward to purchasing your Surrender course.
My mind is full of negative thoughts and fear lately …
During my first major panic attack recently, my mind convinced me I was about to die. For the most part of my long life, I am positive, energetic and happy. So this negative experience – which recurred frequently until I got help – is a clear example for me that the mind can be a very dangerous place.
Been there and still consume me once in a while
I stay deprressed. My mind rules me. I’m seldom in the moment and when i am it never lasts long.
My mind had kept me a prisoner in my own past. I didn’t feel I could experience the “present” because the past took up 3/4 of my view. I am now learning how to get my “sight” back and thus, my life back. I love your book the Untethered Soul. Thank you
I’ve noticed that I live in my past as well. & when I try to be more present it all leads me to forgiving my self for my past mistakes. I don’t even know how to do that. But I am going to make an effort to try. We have to learn how to let the past go, is the only way to be fully present.
My mind spends way too much time trying to evaluate and analyze what is occurring, rather than just living this beautiful life.
I have been to some very dark places in my mind. Everyone becomes an enemy. People are evil and try to hurt me my mind says. I’d rather be alone.
We often associate domestic violence as physical abuse and rarely talk about the mental or mind abuse that is occurring on a massive scale each day. The programming we receive in childhood by trusted adults, the lies we are told by trusted partners, and the fears about the world we are programmed to believe through TV, news and social media all contribute to a mind that has been abused and traumatized with false information about who we are and what we believe. If only we could press a button to format our minds and start again when our minds have become too contaminated with toxic lies and gaslit realities. We all want the ability to create, live and love from a beautiful mind, the problem is how do we sort out, reprogram and prevent all of the negative and traumatized parts of our mind from creeping in and causing pain and suffering? This is the exhausting and never ending struggle I have with my mind.
You hit the nail on the head. Getting older worrying about my future, having g enough money, feing like I should be doing more, etc
I find myself constantly worried and disappointed in my children and judging them for the choices they make.
I can sometimes be completely overwhelmed by current events. Have cut down on fb and the news and am taking more nature walks as well as cutting down on wine. I am also meditating more. All this helps.
My mid goes off the track with not trusting. I can’t trust not even my spouse. If she says a trigger word I automatically assume the worst, this get me into a bad place and spirals down as I continue to think of all the bad scenarios in my mind.
I’ve experienced that as well.
Just recently a health matter came up. I postponed a dr appointment because that’s what I do. One night the problem peaked, I was able to get an appointment in 2 days, what a worrisome long 2days. I’ll going to have to wear a monitor, I know the medicine is not going to be covered by insurance, my husband knows nothing about caring for an ill person, blah blah etc. doctor did blood test, an echocardiogram, ….. my thyroid medicine is too strong—simple matter change dosage. Ahhh the mind keeps getting in my peaceful way. Thank you for this gift. Your book is in my collection, read it maybe 6 yrs ago, I’m pulling it out for another read.
Fear and anxiety have been my biggest challenges. I can be going along feeling fine and then a situation comes up and fear grips me in an unshakeable vice. It’s weird because I feel like I have two hearts, a higher and a lower version. The higher one is in my chest, and I can feel love and passion and inspiration. Then in my stomach, I have the lower “heart” – it feels fear, anxiety, and dread. They say we have 100 million neurons/nerve cells in our stomach! I believe it. It’s a real challenge to sink into these feelings and let them wash over you and bathe in them, like I would with the higher heart. but the more I do that, the less they have a hold over me.
I’m spending far too much time trying to shut my mind off.
My mind tells me really bad things,like I’m not going to succeed at anything I should just kill myself…it took alot of years but my meds are working,I have a great doctor who listens to me.
Getting caught in a downward spiral.
I have anxiety. My mind keeps me anxious worrying about the anxiety. As a result, I suffer everyday with anxiety because I cant stop my mind from worrying about the anxiety.
My mind tells me I,m unworthy .
When I do something wrong, or repeat the same mistakes. My mind fills my whole body up with guilt, it bullies me and shames me.
I went through a period of depression after having a child. I just went through the motions and it eventually went away. I just pushed through because I had to. At that time I never knew about meditation and mindfulness
As I sit here taking a break from working on my taxes, I start to feel so overwhelmed and helpless. So easy to “awfulize” about how my mind, once sharp and clear, now seems clogged with webs and mists of forgetfulness. My limbs once strong and limber now groan and creak as I rise to return to my dreaded duty. Oh for the long lost vigor of youth and brilliance of mind!
My mind likes to take over.
You can start with a negative thought, such as I wish I was a better mother. If you do not get out of your head before you know it you will have yourself convinced that you are the world’s worst mother and that your children are better off with someone else.
The Ego resides in my mind therefore it makes stuff up to keep me in drama, if I am not present to “it’s” presence…
Right now I am worried me, my hsband or someone chose to me is going to get Covid and I come up with scary ” what if” scenarios.
Wishing someone away because they constantly interrupt you, correct you, ignore and abuse you for doing what you love, Then, they leave and you realize you did that and broke up your family. Gilt, Gilt, Gilt.
I only got first one
3 years ago I made a decision to change a part of my body. I was so done with the conversations in the mind, why I should or should not do this. My spiritual intrest started at a very young age, this part of the conversation was telling me not to change my body-gift. The inner conversation answers with the note we cut our hair to and more.
What I hoped was that the conversation stoped. And it did , so it seems the right decision was made. It last a week or to. Then it stared all over again, the conversation just flipped, was it necessary, this is not yogi like.
I have no regret as it has given me this great insight of how my mind can be a dangerous palace.
Thank you for the great video. My mind at one point in my life became my worst enemy when after many years of hard working and studying I got a great residency in a very prestigious hospital but since my mind was telling me that I’m not good enough, I quit. Now I learned not let my mind to talk too much and i taught my mind that I’m the leader and she is my servant.
I can ruminate in a fearful thought which eventually leads to a panic attack.
When I can’t switch it off it stop being frustrated or angry at something or someone .
I have been seeker……when i was young I truly believed material world( e.g. Relationships, money, success etc.) can give me happiness. And as we all go through life, different experiences show us ……that my mind is never happy even when I get what I was desiring….
These experiences led me into an inner search which is still on, and I am grateful to grace that it made me watch your video.
Yes Mind can be a very dangerous place, As I reflect back on my life….I can see how much i was constantly in the grip of the mind, feeling unsafe, and made certain decisions from place of Fear, anger and disconnection. This deep agonizing pain started searching and seeking…….I look forward each day to stay more in Awareness completely dissolve this personal ME.
I bow down to the Divinity in You Michael.
My marriage was dangerous at times because of addictions. There were times that I
thought it would kill me. I realized that I chose him because I was mentally sick and felt
I’m going through a separation at the moment and I have not seen my kids for 6 months, my sons birthday is 7th of June. I was/am angry because I do not believe that I have been treated justly. And if I focus on that, many many many many nasty ugly overwhelmingly negative thoughts come through me. I must release this anger, in order to Move forward in a positive manner, and understand that this is her way of dealing with our relationship breakdown. This is the exact thing I needed to hear, at this exact moment. I cannot thank you enough for sharing this with the world, and with me.
My mind has taken me to very dark places where I ruminate on how I don’t measure up. My mind can trap me in a cesspool of self loathing. My mind can also cast harsh judgement on others.
my mind limits me in my interactions. With my sons, at work, with my family. I tend to base my relationships on outcomes, behaviours, tasks. And this “doing” and “results” focus has limit the potential and depth of my relationships and results. Both on being and on doing,
My mind always goes to “I’m not good enough” in all aspects of my life.
so much self-doubt
I would not forgive myself for not asking a girl out. Now she is half way across the Country with a boyfriend. Had lots of good cries. Can’t forget about her.
I try to make relationships work peacefully and be supportive but when they don’t I am feeling depressed and hopeless
Ruminating about negative things
When I go to a gathering, friends or family, my mind constantly compares and is worried about everyone else in the room, then I feel sorry for myself that I’m not having a good time, I often come home depleted and frustrated rather than pleased with new memories and time spent with loved ones.
When my negative thoughts take
Worked all day i was fine , came home to an empty , non sunny appartement …oh just got seperated and started crying for like 5 min …..then realized what my mindcwas doing si I stopped ate and am listening to you cheers !!
Worrying about something that may or may not happen, with me not having any control over either outcome.
I get caught in judging myself so harshly, then I am stalled in taking constructive action.
Separated from wife. Feel depressed and my mind is constantly developing strategies to get her back. Struggle not to contact her all day.
My mind can tell me things on occasion like you will be alone for the rest of your life. Sometimes it worries about what others thinks or worries about things that never come pass.
I’ve always believed that we get what we focus on and do my best to have a positive mind & outlook, but want to do it consistently. Looking forward to learning more.
What M Singer says is so true: your own mind can be the worst “bully” you’ve ever encountered. Untethered Soul helped me tame the inner bully by being the watcher!
I have the same experience. So much noise…
Always worrying about stuff I can’t control
I have continually been pulled down by my mind telling me that I’m not good enough or I don’t deserve this. It has gotten to the point that I feel frozen in making decisions to move forward in my life. I am now a huge procrastinator afraid of failure.
Mind can magnify negative things and that is dangerous
Constant learning and intake of information when I know that knowledge and happiness come from within.
My mind is always hungry to learn more
I am very concern with my physical appearance, and the wrinkles in my face now that I am getting older I constant worry about that.
Always going over the past events and blaming my self with guilt and blame
how can I edit my name I like to change to Ali only
My mind isolates me from relationships, even my marriage. I avoid life and am unhappy.
How constant chatter of being so critical of oneself all day everyday for 30 + years. Now it’s mostly quiet as I learn to love and except myself for how I am, but alway room for improvement, really looking forward to #2.
Thank you and to Tony Robbins unleashes the power, was how my mind got quieter. And it is through, Tony that I found you. 🕊🙏❤️
I know others have used this but my brother dangled a black piece of rubber in front of me and I ran behind a lamp and it broke and I had thought it was a snake all though it was not and I felt so bad over accidently breaking the lamp.
Spent most of my life trying to impress or please people so they would like me. I never felt heard or valued. My self worth was based on the voice in my head. Used drugs and alcohol to alter my reality. Thanks for the free videos ❤️
Although I practice yoga and medititation, mind mind stil goes to judgement and self critiicism.
Just when you think you’re on top of this mind, you turn your back for a second and it leaps back in control. it takes constant vigilance!
Recently I felt a separation of self. I was alone, in lockdown, following a breakup from a very powerful and transformative relationship. The spiritual ego really took over, I obsessed over meditation, breathwork and yoga to the point where nothing would suffice or quiet the mind. It led to a mountain of self-doubt and a lack of trust in others that brought me close to the edge. I had suicidal thoughts. I was depressed. Constantly anxious about the future.
After coping with serious cheating in my relationship, I developed ovarian cysts, a cyst in a breast, and then a life threatening uterine situation. All my female organs attacked in one year.
I am truly sorry. I hope with all my heart that you find your way through this, for you have my love and concern. God bless you.
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Hola, mi nombre es Joana. Yo estoy pasando por un momento triste por la pandemia, además mi pareja se alejó. Y mi mente no para de pensaaar
No one really cares who I am and they never will.
In my experience, through big learning, If you dont care about you, then others wont care about you; same as if you dont understand you, how can you expect others to understand you – and so on. When I realised this it was a game changer. If I respect and care about me, which i am getting better at through practice, then thats the vibration that i send out and get back equally. So basically it has to start with YOU. And by the way, I replied because I do care.
Keeping me prisoner to the beliefs I formed as a child from a child’s perspective. Learning that these beliefs were formed with no regard to true reality.
My brother (who used to be my sister until she identified as male) has been taking testosterone, and the thought of seeing my brother growing into a man has been something I’ve avoided even though it’s embraced by the rest of my family.
I don’t need to go far; I am feeling quite lonely and depressed at the moment.
Past life experiences, Lack of resolution and letting go
My mind is a negative bully. It has control over me and has for a while. It stops me from doing things I enjoy. I need to take this action to find relief. Thx Micheal.
I’ve been experiencing the same mind problems for many years: My biggest fear is to end up alone in life so I ‘ve been trying to make people like me. This is actually creating me more psychological issues because I cannot control the outer world to satisfy my thoughts. My mind is comparing myself with others, telling me I’m a failure and I haven’t achieved anything so far, This non stop mind game needs to stop or managed from me in a more proactive way. I’m currently reading the “Untethered soul” which is such an amazing book and I am also watching these videos so I am sure I’ll be able to control my thoughts and my mind in order to enjoy better life….
I’ve become obsessed with this administration and the way Donald Trump has run this country the division the racism it’s causing a problem between my husband and myself because he is definitely a conservative and I am far more at the progressive liberal I try not to read the newspaper but when I do it causes another problem because I want to discuss it with my husband and we end up fighting. It’s causing me a great deal of pain. I’m at A student at the course of miracles but I can’t seem to get my head on straight these days thank you for your guidance I look forward to your program Mrs. Stein Longwood fla
You are not alone, I am in this exact same situation. I feel it is my responsibility to get my husband to see my side because I believe so strongly in my principles. I know people are entitled to their own opinions, but I can’t help but judge, what I believe, are his lack of morals. I feel this is not a place for politics but how can we be at peace in this situation and not just be silent.
My mind rationalises too much and stops action. I used to action without attachment to outcome!
Not being good enough to trust myself and be successful. Afraid of trying and making it wrong and fail.
Believing that I am not good enough. Judging myself no matter how much good I do.
lb went off. I learned not to be reactive and to fall back behind my mind and be the observer. It has changed my life. I no longer feel I’m not good enough or not where I need to be. I enjoy my life and the experience of being alive greatly. Thank you.
20 years ago, I strove to live by spirit in all that I did and said. This open me up to false impressions or false spirits. Unintentionally I sought to be commanded in all things; which led to me being arrested for trespassing, and court order to the state mental hospital for six months.
I emigrated, I had a wonderful partner there, unfortunately I became very unadaptable and negative to my new environment, lost my relationship and returned to my previous home country. My mind dictated all my thoughts and actions and I am left disappointed in myself and depressed as I did not know how to control my mind in a positive way.
Relationship is challenging
Reliving the past hurts over and over and over!
I often second guess myself, worrying that someone has misinterpreted something I’ve said or done.
My mind is fearful of everything. That nothing is safe., even getting out of bed in the morning.
For as long as I can remember, I’d beat myself up for any mistake I made. I would hold on to any mistake in my mind for days, weeks, months even years. After reading both TUS and TSE things are starting to shift. “I’m noticing who’s noticing.” I’m 46 and I am starting over and I couldn’t be more excited about it! Thank you!