So sorry for your loss

Good evening Connie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I work with a of mother who have experienced the loss of their children using EMDR. I also have experienced quite a bit of loss myself. Please feel free to reach out to me at hollywoodmft@gmail.com if. you feel so inclined. I’d love to see how. I can support you at this extremely difficult time.

WIth love,
Holly

I am so sorry Connie, I hope this program will help alleviate the pain.

I a, so sorry fory your loss. Please reachout to local groups of survivors of other parents and family memebrs

We have to first have empathy for and imagine the lives of all the meditation instructors that made our journey possible.

And find out what they learned from trial and error.

How does a thorough examination under the Socratic Dialogue, aka. ¨Verbal Judo¨ or ¨Thoughts on Official Trial¨, relate to meditation?

It does and does not I suppose, depending on the level of consciousness you are using to examine an issue or problem, but for anything of this earth it almost always can be helpful if utilized properly and effectively.

Every thought that has ever interacted with your mind, has been Consciousness in disguise, attempting to alter your life. It is of very little difference at this point if the thought has been conscious or sub-conscious, what matters is that it is identified and analyzed in writing on paper.

Writing makes it real.

Some of these thoughts are combinations of many helpful things, including important memories, experiences, and new ideas.

Unfortunately, the vast majority are the Ego trying to make our lives more difficult – where the Ego knows it might gain even more control if our circumstances become just difficult enough.

With so many strangers passing by the ¨control-center¨ of your life day after day, how do we begin Consciously identifying and examining or analyzing these thoughts to see if they deserve a test-drive at our life´s ¨control-center¨?

In my experiences, the most helpful way is when I take those strangers away from the ¨control-pit¨ and ask them to clarify their short-term and long-term intentions under court room conditions.

For example, about 99% of the time I get excited about a new song idea I usually let ¨emotional reasoning¨ take over the control-center and do not objectively examine every possibility of what would make that song its best possible version.

It sucks, I know. It gets really embarrassing when anybody is around for the first long while with a new song that I have yet to observe objectively.

Fortunately I have developed a system that at least allows me to put those different song ingredients on trial where those thoughts and ideas have to prove that they are the best direction for the song that I can at least think of for the moment.

My memory is typically very unreliable, so I depend on different types of recording devices or the advice of very selective music analysts to make it a song that can last the test of time.

Teaching meditation can be a very similar process at times – replacing new song parts with new thoughts and ideas for your intended purposes – and there are a lot of other warnings, helpful hints, and new ideas that are possible when we review the experiences and teachings of meditation instructors that have come before us. Usually the more inspirational or admirable we find that specific the more effective the quallity of new thoughts and ideas will be.

For starters we have a few very common problems that many experience at various times during their practice.

These are some of the four biggest mistakes that people have found in common while attempting to teach meditation in the past:

1.) Not understanding who you are

Who am I?

What do I want?

Why do I want it?

And what is its purpose?

There are a lot of specific questions about ourselves and the lessons that we have to offer that must be planned for in advance. Past that it comes to how passionate and confident you are in exactly who you are and what you are sharing.

2.) Not really believing in what you have to offer.

Is your lesson something that draws on your own insight and experience?

More importantly, how I truly relate to what I a sharing?

We have to have to have ¨deep roots¨ and believe in what we offer.

3.) When faced with decisions outside of our generally familiar ¨comfort-zone¨ we begin avoiding and denying.

In my opinion that is one of the most difficult challenges to overcome, mostly because we can trick and deceive ourselves in so many different ways and / or forget about important things that often just are not very convenient to remember for our momentary comfort.

Then I think about how I would feel as a very old man without resolving and taking care of that issue as best I can.

That is usually a good time to really ¨dig deep¨ within and figure out exactly result I am seeking, what is the purpose of that result, and what reasons for that result come to mind.

It will take something either very horrifying or inspiring to commit to whatever it takes to get from where you feel you are to whatever destination or destiny awaits.

4.) Create ¨good¨ karma by getting in synchronized alignment with your core-convictions and beliefs.

We come from an unbelievably scarce world.

Try asking some strangers or even friends for ¨spare¨ money.

Everything in the world often appears to be constantly telling us only about what we are lacking so that they can profit off of our next purchased ¨solution¨.

And the blind guy becomes the tour guide.

That is why we have reminders set on our phones everyday to at least make one list of what we can honestly say that we feel grateful for right then and there.

Even if its tough and you say things like ¨At least I still have my arms and legs,¨ like this one unfortunate guy i knew may or may not have put on his list.

So we do our best to avoid that ¨lacking mindset¨ and try to focus towards what the 12 steps family calls an ¨attitude of gratitude¨.

Before we get to the layers of life-meditation and 7 higher states of consciousness there is one last thing for today.

Or two if you want to find me in the parking lot and let me know that you agree – ¨Epi-Buddha¨ is the hidden 9th level of consciousness.

As always – in meditation we find the same two options that lie within every single decision on this planet, except largely ampliphied:

What are you going to choose?

1.) Allow our limiting beliefs to trap and paralyze us (¨Analysis-Paralysis¨)

Or

2.) Facing what can often be our most profound fears, overcoming any and all obstacles involved, and focusing only on ¨what works¨.

I´ll close with the word that yogi´s use to let each other know that their energy accepts the energy of the other person.

Namaste.

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We´ll talk soon, but I want to add one other with tons of love until we can talk before next classes.

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But I want to give you an introduction to exactly what sciences are utilized in this process, how that relates to the problems in our economic systems, and exactly what kind of cognitive difficulties we are dealing with.

The study of systems, their limits, and their potentials is called cybernetics.

Stafford Beer was a revolutionary in this science and was contacted by a foreign country to help evolve their economy with this approach. After some initial success I believe the story is that the agents of the deep state ruined everything.

Cybernetics, being the study of the structure of various systems, also studies disruptions to the human nervous system.

The human autonomic nervous system is, without exception, the most advanced piece of technology that this world has ever seen.

But it has an arch-enemy.

The ego is an addict to negative thoughts.

Thats right. The ego is an addict.

And you cannot reason with addicts.

Words are only a way to pass the time between ´scoring´, or whatever relieves the extremely painful and crippling mental loop that they are almost trapped in. And it usually just causes more maladaptation and gets worse.

This ¨mental loop¨ of unhelpful thinking is referred to as a cognitive ¨Stuck Point¨

There are various cognitive behavioral therapy traumatic incident processing workthroughs for this, and they do help after years of effort typically, but there is another problem that has to be addressed before PTSD therapies can really even be analyzed.

There is going to have to be at least some relative type of economic balance obtained first. At least where everybody has something to wear, somewhere to stay, and something to eat.

In order to have an understanding of how to do this and how it effects people we turn to the science of cybernetics.

Cybernetics is the transdisciplinary approach for exploring regulatory systems. This includes the system´s structure, constraints, and future possibilities or potential.

Cybernetics, viewed from a Taoist perspective, includes a general perception that problems at the smallest levels of fundamentals will only snowball and result in a chaotic and disorganized system as a whole. Without exception.

How does this apply to our economies and the catastrophe that they produced? One small fundamental.

This may be overgeneralized, but the problem essentially comes down to the concept of compounding ¨interest¨.

Interest is things collecting value just by existing for a set period of time.

Extra money? Where does it come from?

Lets go ask people on the street and our friends or family for ¨extra money¨ to find out.

The equation for compounding interest is inherently flawed.

X in this equation is the current amount of money in any given economy. In this simplified example the interest owed in just 1 dollar.

So if we have X dollars and we need X+1 dollars, then how do we acquire that extra dollar? There is absolutely no healthy way in all of existence. That money does not exist. Every dollar in your wallet is owed to at least a few other people that owe a few other people.

Now consider the trillions just sitting there collecting ¨interest¨.

Who is going to pay for it?

We kill and invade other countries once about every 20 years.

Ready for the coincidence?

It also takes just about 20 years for our ¨scam-artist-robbery¨ economies to fall apart.

This is where we are approaching. It is being sped up and even sort of exposed with coronavirus.

To begin wars, countries lie their asses off and stage false events. 9/11 for example. Most people will agree that it seems some things were hidden from the public and the situation was not resolved correctly.

But I am predicting that something very different will happen this time.

With too many problems to balance, a quickly fading reputation, and threatening rivals becoming much more powerful and forging alliances the US will try its same old bail out the economy trick by starting some type of war.

Something along the lines of people catching it before it happens or seeing through it directly after sounds very likely, due to their new and growing unprecedented weakness.

That is it for now. Next time we will get into the resolving mathematical equations like the Phi Ration and Fibonacci Sequence and how they relate to the cross of the zodiac.

One of the neuropsychologists made a really interesting tool that I renamed the ¨Global Consciousness Wheel¨ that divides all recognized forms of consciousness this way.

And how ¨stuck points¨ are actually defense mechanisms during times of uncertainty, challenge, and paradox.

And an example of how altering perception can allow for resolution of some seemingly impossible paradoxes. This incorporates the ¨What Would Happen If¨-analysis-technique for evaluating confusing or unfamiliar situations. And the usual pro´s and con´s.